How to be a good/stunning mother/ parent.

Have you ever wondered , how you are supposed to be  a good mother to your kids. Take a case your are a new parent to your family and you don't know where to start from ? The following are guidelines on how to be a good mother or  parent

Be always optimistic

Always try to have a positive set mind that you are going to make it through in parenting. 

I know being a newbie in parenthood,it sometimes hectic and tiresome. Having a  well focussed minds idea and always trying to discover news things , is the only way to overcome challenges in your motherhood.

Be reliable

A good mother should always be reliable to the family members. Being present will increase the trustworthy and everyone including your children will put trust in you.

They will not have any doubt in you and they will forever rely on you,because you will offer protection and any solution to their problems.

Be self dependent

Always try to depend on yourself. Trusting yourself leads to independent and a strong woman.  Sometimes try to try new things and new ideas in your parenting, thus making you to become a successful and a hard-working woman in the house.

Always try to look on ways to provide the basic needs to your family. Don't always depend on your husband,to bring everything to the house. Sometimes you can go for Hire to do jobs like washing clothes, digging for others if you are a staying home mother. These can generate income and you will ease up the burden of hunger in your family.

Be ready to help out

Always be ready to help others out: If you see someone who needs help, don’t hesitate or ignore them and make sure to reach out to them either directly or indirectly. Be ready to help your kids to grow in a moral way. Don't always leave your family members to suffer. If you have the potential in extending the hand either financially or verbally, just do it. 

 Helping the unfortunate in the family makes and creates good relationships with other family member.

Let them lean on you and assure them that you will be able to help them somehow. That will make you more approachable and trustworthy.

Be ready to learn out

Have the mentality to improve. Be ready to learn and improve your skills and attitudes. Try to read from other women and sometimes seek guidance from elder mothers.

Be honest and faithful.

Being honest and truthful makes your family to gain respect for you. Always stick to your parenting and never ignore any tasks that comes in the way. Always remember to trust the process of taking care of your family members and never have partiality in up bringing your children. Learn to love them all.

Be present: Sometimes, you just have to be present and available to people, nothing else is needed in most circumstances. Whether it’s a grieving friend, a tired colleague, an unhappy lover, just being by there and being available is very important

How to balance workload at home and at work as a mother.

Many mothers have a lot to sacrifice so that they can balance the workload. It needs commitment and submission inorder to succeed. 

Am the one of them who struggles to fit at home and at office. I normally work up at 4 am ,prepare breakfast and I dress my kids and make sure they have taken their breakfast before they step out for school.

There are at times I feel like giving up. Imagine you have a 6 month year old , when you wake up to prepare breakfast the kid has woken up. It forces me to stop whatever I am doing ,I breastfed her intending for a sleep the kids end up playing. 

She starts to cheer at you. Sometimes you feel like pinching her ,but your ego can't allow you because she is a kid. So I have to entice her with breastfeeding until she eventually sleeps.

There are at times she deceives that she has slept only to be amazed the calling of ma.ma.ma.  imagine that's is almost 5:30 a.m and the older kid are waiting for you.

Sometimes at work it's so stressful. You are supposed to work from 8am to 5pm and you need to travel at a longer distance. Most of the time I am late for work because I can't manage to be on time. 

During the clock out , I travel to a murram road. When it rains the motorbike sometimes tends not to pass through, because the roads are mud. It forces me to walk on foot for a longer miles so that I avoid getting stuck.

There are times I get rained on because I don't have any alternative. I don't have a personal car, so I have to wait until the rain stops so that I can proceed with my journey. Imagine it's almost 6pm and am supposed to be at home . Most of the times I reach home at 7:40-8:pm.

You are tired and upon reaching home , your house chores are waiting for you. You need to act out faster like a mother of the house ,so that things will not be in a mess.

Has or do your kids normally eat their food without any problem. Take a case where you prepare food and when you serve them ,it becomes hide and seek. Sometimes you have to sweet talk to them with all manners of names Daddy,PAPA,MUM,MA'AM and other names,so that they can eat well.

So it is my responsibility to organize myself and plan on my day to day activities, so that I can fulfill the task of the day. Even if you fill tired and exhausted and sometimes try to help your nanny so that your kids will have a good life.

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