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11 Must Have Life Skills Every Adult Needs




There are skills that children need to learn: tying their shoes, cleaning their room, and brushing their teeth are a few examples. There are also important life skills that adults need to learn.These skills will help you not only survive, but thrive in the big world.

Master these skills and reap the benefits:Make a great first impression. It’s not easy to overcome a negative first impression. Others form an opinion about you very quickly, and it takes a significant amount of time to change that impression.

Wouldn’t life be so much happier and easier if it came with a manual tailored for your specific  needs. Imagine for a second, knowing exactly what to do, and when to do it. 

Should you buy  that house? Should you date that person? Should you accept that job offer? These and many more  decisions would be so much easier if we knew the outcomes.

 Unfortunately, that’s rarely the case,  and most of what we learned as children becomes irrelevant as we grow older and age.

You’ll have to learn a lot as you transition into adulthood, things like managing your taxes,  paying bills, and managing your finances need to become second nature to you. And although many  

of the things you’ll need to learn and do aren't difficult to achieve, you must be aware of them.

So let me save you time and give you the simple life skills every adult needs to learn,  to successfully navigate life and achieve their goals and desires, no matter how small.

Number 1: Effective time management


On one side of the coin, you will encounter many situations throughout your life where  you have to juggle, multiple personal and professional priorities. And on the other side,  dealing with the pitfalls of life. 

 But knowing how to manage your time,  can significantly help manage this problem.

It's imperative to stick with one task at a time when it comes to time management. It is  counterproductive to multitask because the brain expends energy switching between activities. 

Also, multitasking has been show to drastically  decrease the quality of work and productivity of the individual.

Number 2: Learn how to set goals.

Goals can help you achieve what you most desire in life. Without goals, your life lacks direction.  

The acronym "SMART" has stood the test of time because it's effective. And this acronym simply  means that your goals should be Specific – A clear and well defined goal is easier to focus and  measure progress.

Measurable – you should be able to clearly track your progress and  achievements.

Achievable – the goal needs to be within reach given your resources and  abilities. 

Relevant – meaning that it should align with your values and interest,  and overall life or career objective. 

 Timebound – therefore it should  be subjected to a deadline, because the sense of urgency helps keeps you focused.

A good goal should be one that inspires and excites you, it should give you a sense of  purpose and direction, and it should also be challenging, yet achievable.

Number 3: Budgeting

Budgeting and financial responsibility are vital life skills, and are also  the foundation of a financially secure life.

Making a budget is at the top of the list of people’s favorite money-saving tactics. Having  a budget not only allows you to track every penny you spend, but it can also be used to assess your  current financial condition and make future projections. 

With a budget, you can determine  how much of your income you put into savings, and your biggest expenses, such as; housing,  food, and transportation. In addition, it can help you keep track of your debt repayment progress.

If you have never created a budget, you can start today by following these 5 simple steps: 

  • First, record your income: Estimate your monthly income, from wages, tips,  and so on. Almost all expenses are paid monthly, so making a budget for one month works well. 
  • Secondly, document Your Expenses: List each expenditure in a month.  Write down your monthly fixed expenses, like rent. The calculate your average  monthly grocery spending. If you have only recurring expenses, such as auto repairs,  divide the yearly cost by 12. Also include insurance, home maintenance, and taxes.
  • Thirdly, budget for savings: Don't forget to set aside funds for savings. Saving the  leftovers from your income at the end of the month is unlikely to yield any results. Rather,  pay yourself first: Treat savings as a necessity, and take it before anything else.
  • The second last point is, maintain a balanced budget:  Compile your income and expenditures. If the numbers balance, you are in reasonable  shape. You can add the extra to your savings if your income is higher than your expenses.  Find ways to cut costs, or earn some extra money, if expenses exceed income.
  • And lastly, be flexible: Budgeting is a process. So, you'll need to adjust  it as time moves on. Maintain a record of how much you spend monthly. If necessary,  move your money from areas where your budgeting is better to areas where you perform poorly. 
  • Also,  you can change your budgeting method if you have trouble following it.  For income that fluctuates from month to month, you might want  to try zero-based budgeting. This system bases your spending on your previous monthly income.

Number 4: Negotiating effectively.

We all want to avoid being cheated out of our money, so having excellent negotiation skills  is helpful not only for professionals, but also you. Negotiation is a valuable life skill since  making an offer and learning how to negotiate can save you money. If you find yourself in  a challenging money situation, the ability to negotiate well, will come in handy.

 And,  if you’re not comfortable with negotiating, keep practicing until you feel confident.

Number 5: Learn the art of public speaking

Communication is part of everyday life, but you must know the basics that will captivate your  audience. Others may take to public speaking like it was second nature, whereas some may squirm in  the corner. You can take the initiative and sign up for a public speaking class or jump right in  and speak to a large group of people if you’re confident and the opportunity avails itself.  

You can share your ideas in a religious setting or engage in an open forum at your community meeting  to home your public speaking skills. As you practice, you'll notice that your skills improve.

Number 6: Network effectively.

Even though many people are resistant to networking, it is necessary for your success,  and probably your children’s too. The strength of your professional network is the people you  have at your disposal. 

These are people you can turn to for advice, information,  referrals, and introductions, and in the same vain, turn to you.

Number 7: Make a positive first impression.

Did you know that first impressions are formed in about three seconds. Within this short period,  people form an opinion about you based on your appearance, body language, and demeanor. 

If you  make a positive impression, it will impact all areas of your life, whether in your career or  social life. So make it a norm, to be presenting the best version of yourself at all times.

Number 8: Learn how to socialize with people.

The vast majority of people reach adulthood without any knowledge  of getting along with others. If you happen to struggle with getting along with others,  a good starting point is Dale Carnegie's advice in his classic book, "How to Win  Friends and Influence People.". 

The following are six ways Carnegie suggests making others like you:

1. Genuinely show interest in others. 2. Smile a lot. 

3. It is imperative to remember a person's name. 

4. You should always listen carefully to what  people are saying. Allow them to tell you about themselves. 

5. It would be best to always speak about the other person's interests. 

6. You should make them feel important - and do it with honesty.

Number 9: Take Advantage of Body Language.

Our body language reveals our true feelings and amplifies our message. It goes beyond just words. Voice tone, gestures, and posture all play a key role. 

The expression of a relaxed smile with an upturned mouth and wrinkled eyes is  an excellent example of body language. An upright stance can convey interest or  touching your head can communicate thinking.

 Hand and arm movements can convey directions.  

It can also be about avoiding defensive postures or restlessly tapping feet. 

If you can "read" signs like these, you can understand what someone is trying  to tell you. You'll know how people react to what you say and do. 

And it  will improve your ability to appear positive, engaged, and approachable.

Number 10: Learn Effective Decision Making Skills.

Every day, we constantly have to make choices in life. In some cases,  these choices can be easy; in others, they can be challenging.  

A simple decision can be choosing the clothes to wear, what to eat, or read.

The most difficult decisions require deep thought. College, career choices,  starting a family, and even getting married and having children are all difficult decisions.  

Making these decisions is challenging because they profoundly impact who we are and what we do.

In a nutshell, decision-making is a skill everyone needs. We do not innately possess it;  instead, it is a proven process derived from experience.

 And  here are five easy steps you can use to make the right decision.

1. Determine Your Goal. Focusing on your goal is  

one of the most effective ways to make decisions. You need to clarify the purpose of your decision  

by asking yourself, what exactly are you trying to achieve? How can this problem be resolved? 

You'll make better decisions if you know what's most important to  

you. Deciding with a sound reason will allow you to defend and stick with it.

2. Weigh the Options. Making good decisions involves  gathering relevant information. In this way, you will better grasp the problems and solve them. 

Ask your friends and family members for their opinions or speak to experts because,  this will help you develop various options when  weighing your options. Use every resource you can before making your final decision.

3. Examine the Consequences. Your final decision can be just as important as  your first decision because it will determine the impact on you and others.

 Ask yourself what will  likely happen because of your decision. How will it impact you? Will it have long-term effects?

Here you can compare the positive or negative options you listed earlier. It is crucial  because you want to be comfortable with all your choices and the results.

4. Decide. Having identified  your goal and gathered all necessary data, you can now weigh the consequences and  decide. Trusting your instincts is vital since this step can cause anxiety in some people. 

Consider this when deciding what you want. Ask yourself, "is it right for you now?" Will it work  in the long run? Answering these questions will make you feel good about the outcome.

5. Measure Your Results.

To succeed, you must evaluate both the decision and the steps you've taken  once you've decided on your final course of action.

 As you would from step one,  you will benefit quite a bit from this last step, as it will aid you in developing decision-making  skills for the future. You may also need to seek out new information and make changes as you go. 

You need to exercise patience during this step. But why? Because the results may not  come right away. You may have to choose another option if the first choice does not work.Moving on.

Number 11: Know how to use a first aid kit.

This may sound funny, but not a lot of people know what’s in a first Aid kit,  nor how to properly use the things in it. 

 Nearly everyone will need a first aid kit  at some point in their lives. So, you should ensure that you know how to use the equipment  when the time arises. It is a good idea to have one at home and one in your vehicle.


10 Habits That Will Positively Improve Your Life Forever

Habits that will positively improve your life forever.What makes successful people, successful you may ask?

All I can say is, it takes focus, personal discipline, and the will to make things happen frequently.

One thing they have in common is the good habits and daily rituals they foster to improve the quality of their life.

The truth is, old habits can be difficult to change, but some new essential habits you can adapt can positively improve your life forever!

Since we are what we repeatedly do, these habits (if adopted) will improve your mental and physical health.

Your overall feeling of well-being will also increase, improving your quality of life substantially.In return, you get to enjoy a happier, less stressed life with fewer health complications.

Not such a bad outcome for such little compromise, don't you think?

1.Create a morning ritual.

Waking up early isn’t the only thing that can change your life for the better.It’s also about setting up a morning routine and doing similar things orderly.

Having a to-do list as the first thing in the morning will give you the motivation and enthusiasm to take you throughout the day.

This will kick out procrastination that sometimes leaves you overwhelmed and paralyzed on what to do as the next step.

Aside from a to-do list, some morning exercises such as a run or a healthy breakfast can leave you supercharged.

If the great outdoors isn’t for you, then maybe some morning meditation and yoga would do.Maybe read an inspiring book for 30 minutes?You could also take your refreshing shower, read, or listen to the news as you drink your morning cup of coffee.

Establishing a meaningful morning ritual helps you kickstart your day on a proactive note that impacts it positively.After all, we are all creatures of habit, why not do them often if they give us pleasure?

2.Follow the 80/20 rule.

As simple as it sounds, this principle suggests that in any situation, 20% of the tasks yield 80% of the results.

This means that your to-do list is important, but the tasks that create the biggest impact deserve most of your time and energy.

If you focus on this 20%, you’d have maximized productivity and have the freedom to focus on other activities on the same to-do list.

This will help people who are easily distracted or rather very overwhelmed with a huge workload.

3.Learn to single-task.

Although you may assume because we live in a busy, bustling city so the art of multi-family comes naturally, hate to break it to you, but only 2% of people in the world can multitask successfully.

There’s no harm in multitasking occasionally, however, constant juggling between tasks limits your focus.

This in return contributes to mental clutter by making it difficult for your brain to filter out irrelevant information making your brain jump from one task to another without being able to focus properly on neither one.

A Stanford University study concluded that multitasking lowers efficiency and may impair your cognitive control.Instead of multitasking, choose one thing on your to-do list and give it your full and undivided attention until you are done.

One of the immediate visible results is that you’ll feel less stressed and restless decreasing the probability of making mistakes.

This in return makes you become more productive.

Single-tasking will make you realize you feel less stressed, make fewer mistakes, and become more productive.

4.Appreciate more.

Are you grateful for what you already have?You may be riding a bicycle to work and not that BMW you have been dreaming about, but are you grateful that you have the means to get you to work?Legs to peddle, a job, despite the high rate of unemployment?

If you feel bad about complaining about your current quality of life, remember, someone is having it worse than you, and they are equally grateful.Consciously practising gratitude should be the motto.

Tony Robbins said, “When you are grateful, fear disappears, and abundance appears.”Practising gratitude is a great way to create positivity in your life.It will help reduce stress and improve your mental health.

So, how can you cultivate this healthy habit?For a start, you could take ten minutes every day to focus on what you are grateful for—writing down at least three things daily, dwelling in their magnificence, and celebrating their gift.

Your existence is a miracle in itself, what are the odds of you being born over 400 quadrillion options?

5.Go for a social media detox.

The digital world comprises over 90% of our planet, and every time something new is trending on social media.

Maybe you are catching up on a trip that someone went or someone just bought a new house, some of the information shared can either impact you positively or negatively.

It doesn’t matter how positive it is though, sometimes you can get so consumed in social media you lose touch with reality.Not forgetting how time-consuming it is!

Research says the average person has five social media accounts and spends almost 2hours every day checking their social media feed.This has also been linked to increased depression cases due to mental clutter.

A social media detox seems to be the only reasonable remedy in such a situation to reduce stress levels.

Just switch off your phone or any other device you may use to access social media for a few hours every day to improve your mood and reconnect with the world around you.

6.Exercise often.

One should set aside at least 15 to 30 minutes within a day for exercises.I mean, countless benefits come with exercising.

Other than the physical improvement, regular workouts regularly pump up creativity and enhance your cognitive skills.

Exercise also helps decrease the risk of developing some serious health issues such as type 2 diabetes.

Exercising doesn’t have to be boring, nor does it have to involve lifting heavy equipment at the gym.

It could involve fun activities that you do for fun such as dancing around the house,playing with your pet, or even taking a walk with a friend.

Even for the greatest of fitness gurus, they can attest that starting was the hardest task.

The first month of creating a new fitness habit may seem demanding but committing yourself will help in the long run.

Your social behaviour will improve, appetite will be normal, digestion will be seamless,better sleep, improved memory, the list of benefits goes on and on!

If you are not currently in the habit of exercising, you can start gradually with minor achievable exercises.

Imagine if you only did 10 jumping jacks before you shower every day?What happens if you did this for a year, where would you be?Here’s a tip, exercising outside will not only bring you extra benefits for the bodybut also the mind and soul.

7.Invest in self-care.

Sometimes we get absorbed with work that we forget to simply take a break.It could be school, looking after the family, running our business, or even a job keeping you preoccupied.

However, sometimes it is a good idea to just sit back and relax.Taking some time off to unwind can do wonders for your mood and mental health but also self-esteem.

This can be doing at least one thing that makes you feel good daily.Watch some vlogs, listen to music, learn a new skill online, take a long bubble bath,DIY something cool, or even prepare a nice meal!Just take some time off and have fun.

8.Read Books .

There are great benefits to stimulating your brain daily, though some aren’t instantly obvious, science is proving that our brain changes as we learn.

Without exercising the brain, our brains tend to slow down and become less responsive and more prone to disease over time.

Reading books is an amazing way to gain knowledge and stimulate creativity.Just like meditation, reading books gives a calming effect and also improves focus.

Not all books have the same effect, non-fiction books are excellent for broadening the horizon by motivating you and helping you develop new ideas.

Since they are based on real-life experiences, they offer actionable advice on how to overcome all kinds of challenging situations.

It has been proven that people who continuously learn have faster responses, better social skills, and have greater overall wellbeing.

It can help to fight dementia, improve memory skills, make it easier to process new information,and makes you more productive.

Also, the idea of learning something new gives you a sense of purpose and makes you a more interesting person.

To help you ease into this habit, opt to read a book rather than social media or tv.You can even set a reminder on your phone twenty minutes before you plan to sleep and make time for this habit.

Turn off your devices, take a real book, and hold it in your hands.B0ecome absorbed into its wonder!

9.Create social connections with positive people.

As much as you may enjoy some alone time, did you know that if you want to add more days into your life, you should add some strong social ties and community support?

Social connections not only give us pleasure, but they also influence our long-term health.It’s as important as nutrition, sleep, and exercise.

Relationships are as important to us as food to our bodies or sunlight on our souls.As you do this, be mindful of the individuals you are associating yourself with.

They should also have a positive approach towards life or on the journey towards one.You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with so you shouldn't pick up some bad habits in the name of socializing.

The ones you love and care for should be somewhere on top of that list since they are the ones we lean on when stress arrives or life becomes hectic.

It doesn’t matter what you are working on or focusing on in life, as long as you organize priorities.

Think of it this way, do you remember to say “I love you” and “I appreciate you”?

Do you have a bad habit of pushing your loved ones away when more ‘important’ things come up?

Time set aside for your loved ones must be treasured.You don’t have to wait until a problem arises.

Most new relationships and friendships start with fun, excitement, and the desire to show love and enjoy life.That’s not all, being mindful to make every human interaction positive is key.

When your time on earth comes to an end, how will you be remembered?Be in the habit of leaving people in a more joyous state than when you found them instead of lowering them.

10.Practice Minimalism.

 Don’t worry, I am not saying clear out all your stuff and live a hippie lifestyle.Not that there’s anything wrong with that.All I’m saying is that you may have a lot of stuff and that can negatively impact our lives.

We have a habit of collecting, displaying, moving, cleaning, and finally storing stuff.You will come to know that this stuff does not necessarily make us happy but instead just wastes our time sorting them out.

Minimalism is a health and wealth thing.As you get rid of things you do not use or need,you are left with an uncluttered simple environment and life.

It’s the art of using simple tools, keeping a simple wardrobe, carrying less, and living lightly.

Life is short and it can be hectic with sensory overload.Imagine all the distractions of “stuff”, relationships, work, and the stress of bills all at once!

Minimalism offers you the opportunity to move the focus from possessions and tasks to family and enjoyment.

It’s not a get happy quick scam, minimalism does declutter your life giving you more room for more important things that make you happy.

As you spend less on buying and replacing things, you are in return saving more.Your wealth will increase but in the same vein, so will your time.

A minimalist lifestyle will make your home easier to clean, your time easier to manage,and essentially your life easier to live!

The bonus takeaway is to determine your priorities.Getting your priorities straight will help you live a life you love.

It’s not always easy to figure things out but if you stop trying to solve many issues simultaneously, you can have a starting point and improve gradually.

Now, how about you pull up your socks, it's time to win at life!

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10 Mistakes Most Young People Make & Regret Later in Life

Adolescent and early adulthood is just too exciting, no wonder most of us make several mistakes at a time like that.

I will be sharing with you 10 mistakes most young people make and regret later in their life If you’re still young, you’ll have opportunity to correct some of these mistakes.

If you’re already 75, well, we’re sorry.

Hahahaha….

Mistake No. 1 Young People Spend money on trivial things

Most young people want to have fun; they want to enjoy their life and feel among.They look at others and want to be like them, buy what they buy and live the way they do.

Young people are more likely to run after fashion, style, fun and many more.There’s nothing bad in being fashionable and buying latest iPhones except it’s making you poorer.

As a young person, your primary assignment should be to build a solid financial foundation for your life.

To do this, you have to have the habit of saving and learn about investing.You can buy everything and anything your heart desires but that’s after you have built wealth.

I know, that’s an ugly advice for anyone at 20s, until you’re 50 and know what itmeans to be broke at such age.

Mistake No. 2.

Young people think Schooling is enough to get rich

Maybe this isn’t their fault actually,maybe we should blame the society for this.

You see, your education actually truly starts the day you leave school.You may not like to hear this but it’s the truth.The real world is very different from the four walls of the classroom.

Truly successful people are people who learn daily, even two decades after they’ve left school.

Unfortunately, most people of the world stop learning the day they leave school and that’s a big mistake that leads to poverty and unfulfilled life.

Read good books,listen to good audio program.School doesn’t teach you much things as you’ll like to believe.

Mistake No. 3

Young people tend to give up easily 

It is so easy to just quit when something feels too hard.The idea of giving up what you’re doing to just try something else, can be the easier option sometimes.

It might be that you don’t like what you are doing.But the biggest mistake you can make sometimes is to give up.

Pushing through the hard times is what makes a stronger and well-rounded person.When things start getting a little tough, don’t take the easy way out.Keep on pushing through and you just might surprise yourself.

When you work through something tough and come out the other side, there is no better feeling.Don’t give up.Keep on fighting!

Mistake No. 4 Young People Do Accept Whatever they Hear and Believe anything.

Young people are people with great minds, full of opinion, but they will rarely challenge what they hear from older people.

Youth should be a time of learning, but also questioning what you are told and even get deeper into your own best thoughts and points of view.

Experience may lead you to discover that issues that seem black and white are actually many shades of gray.

Age doesn’t necessarily come wisdom, and many young people too easily accept what they hear from older generations.Following your instincts can take you a long way, if you know how to follow it well.

Mistake No. 5 Young People Invest Without Research

Reading and hearing stories of people who have made millions investing on the stock market can make it very tempting to give it a go yourself but don’t do that.

Investing can be a very rewarding thing but it’s not as easy as just throwing your money away on random shares.

As a young person, you need to do some research.If you invest wrongly, it can mean you lose a lot more than you put in.

If you truly want to master investing, the best way to go about it is to study some really good books on that subject.

Taking time to read 10 good books about stock market or real estate can save you from unnecessary headache that comes with losing your hard earn investment.

Mistake No. 6

Young people always want instant gratification.

 Maybe this is the biggest mistakes young people make.

Young people today are under great pressure to establish a successful career as soon as possible, to find the perfect partner at the earliest opportunity and most importantly,to enjoy themselves right here and NOW.

They always want everything NOW and that usually lead them into unnecessary short cuts, debt and unhappy future.

Mistake No. 7 Most young people don't save money.

A recent survey of 1,003 people from Bank rate found that 69% of those ages 18 to 29 had no retirement savings at all.

Your retirement may seem far off, but you're doing yourself a major disservice if you don't recognize the importance of saving as soon as possible.It’s not only retirement you should save for.You should save for investment and also for emergencies.

It’s hard to save when all your mates are buying new stuff but if you think you have a better future than theirs, you’ll be disciplined enough to save.

Mistake No. 8 Young people think that love alone is enough

To sustain a relationship Love is undoubtedly a key ingredient in making a relationship work.However, it is not sufficient.

It is possible to be very much in love with someone yet realize that the two of you are fundamentally incompatible.

The best relationships are based not on romantic love but on shared values, dreams and goals.

Communication skills and the ability to argue without hurting one another for the sake of it are also vital.

Since choosing a life partner is an important decision you’ll have to make at your 20s,knowing this truth will help you.Long lasting relationship is about love, but not just that.

Your partner must share a significant part of your values, goals and aspirations or else you won’t last together.

Mistake No. 9 Young people try to please everyone.

When you're starting out as a teenager in your early career, it can seem natural to want to be on friendly terms with your boss, clients, and all of your school mates.

It may be disappointing when you found out that some of them simply don't like you and you’ll start bending to fit in to their expectations.

This is a big mistakes because there’s no formula that guarantees that everyone will like you.You must learn how to deal with haters, very important.

Mistake No. 10 Young people Blame Their Parents for their misfortune 

We’re very sorry, your parents own you nothing.They invited you to this world, yes.But they probably have done the best they know how to do.

If you think their best is not good enough, guy, get out and fix your life.It’s your life and you’re the only one who is responsible.Your failure or success is yours and not your parents’

N/B If you takehtake these  advices you can be a better person in life.

Okay, just before you go, here is the summary of what we’ve shared with you so far;

  • Delay gratification.
  • Don’t buy things because everyone is doing so
  • Learn how to save for investment and retirement purpose
  • Don’t believe everything.Ask questions and challenge status quo
  •  Don’t fall in love because of love alone.
  • Think about values and compatibility
  • Don’t think you’re educated because you have degrees.
  • Learn every day Try things and don’t give up easily
  • Don’t blame your parents or government for your failure.
  • Take responsibility.

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