Have you ever thought of becoming a parent and having your own family. New parents sometimes they have fear and they don't know how parenting is. New parents they sought tips from various sources ,others which are good or others misleading. When starting a family and becoming a parent it needs patience and resilience. Marriage has ups and downs,so you must accept and move on. The following tips will help new parents in their life.
1. Trust yourself
As a new parent you need to trust your instinct. Trust that you should make a responsible parent like others. You may find many advice from the parents who have managed,seek from the books or Internet , advice from friends ,relatives and other people. Just take what's good for you and toss the rest. You know your baby better than the other person,if you really need any advice just consult your doctor.
2. Ask help
As a new parent if you feel you need a help from others,just ask. Don't die with your problem. Asking help doesn't make you to be more less parenting. Relatives,friends they can help you to babysit and you can take that time to take a shower,sleep for a while or you have a work. Don't tend to pretend that you are a super mum or super dad. Asking help or allowing people to help you,it creates good relationship.
Don't be afraid on how they will take it. But have a positive mind.
3. Join parenting groups
As a new parent who is struggling in raising a child or children,try as much as possible to join parenting groups either in Facebook, LinkedIn Twitter and other social media networks. In those groups there are a lot of questions which are being asked and they are answered.
Remember to take good advise and leave those that are not helping. Through those groups,you will learn alot what you never knew in parenting. In those groups you will learn on how to feed your baby,care for your baby.
4. Be open minded
As a new parent, don't just assume that you know everything about parenting. Be ready to seek advice,and put off the old theories and accept the new ones. Be flexible in your life and don't have a preconceived notions and ignore the new ideas.
5. Always communicate.
Don't be afraid to communicate with your baby. Even if the baby doesn't talk back or understand what you are talking,just speak to him/her. Communicating with a baby helps in development of communication skills. It may sound weird when someone finds you talking to your infant. But that one should not scare you . You can do non-verbal communication by waving the hands,smiling and see whether the child can do it back.
6. Don't compare
New parents always try to do comparison in children. Every child has got his/her unique way of development. Don't just look at someone's baby for example she has started walking at 9 months and yours has not moved even in one step or she can't make steps while holding objects. Every child has her own milestones.
Just be patient and as you keep on having more children you will understand the differences. Always read on child's development stages, that's when you will accept.
7. Babies always cry
Remember that babies always cry. As a new parent you should not take that one as a disease. Most of the infants moreso at 1-5 months they tend to cry ,due to colic or they have been just be born and they need womb warmth. Others may cry due to hunger,they want to sleep,others are sick, overtired,upset and you need to differentiate and understand how these babies cry and how their sounds means. Just make sure you care for your baby by using the right petroleum jelly that doesn't bring itching on the skin of the baby .
8. Get time to rest.
I know it's difficult to sleep when you are supposed to have some other activities. Sometimes other children won't allow you to sleep. As a new parent you are advised to sleep when the baby is also a sleep and make sure that there's no disturbance. You can't sleep when the baby is a wake, because he needs your attention.
Sleeping makes you to relax,refresh your mind,it makes you to regain your energy and also makes you to forget about the difficult time you have been having with the baby.
9. Be patient.
Parenting needs patience. You shouldn't expect the baby to grow instantly. There should be stages when parenting. Sometimes babies tend to be terrible and annoying, because of crying,they don't want to be left alone,to eat or sleep,you need to practice patience and persistent.
Impatient of new parents leads to poor upbringing. You can't expect a baby to act like a grown up,the baby needs his/her time to develop fully. Don't have so much expectations from your baby that are impossible.
10. Love yourself
Having a new baby and being a new parent, doesn't make you not to make yourself tidy. Yeah I know parenting a little baby plus the house chores if you don't have a nanny or anybody who can help, sometimes you may forget even to take a bath, especially if you have some other children.
The children may tend to cause chaos,they make the room untidy , disarrange the things,break some items and you find you are caught up when cleaning. Just use five minutes and take a bath.
Sometimes your body posture may change and you become more fatty, because you have baby fats that are yet to be reduced. Your skin may start peeling off, just look at the mirror and speak good things about you. You may see your fellow friends with good shape, don't disregard yourself or avoid to hang out with them.
Just put yourself together and believe that you will regain your shape. Even after some months you may start slowly going for yoga,or gyms to return back your shape.
Conclusion
Parenting it needs patience, loving yourself,asking help when need be, asking questions where you don't know about certain things, expecting stress because the baby may not be sleeping or may be sick.
Parenting as new parent can be tiresome but at the end ,you become a victor when the baby who used to be making or giving you sleepless night has become a grown up and can do his/her own things.
If you have other tips don't forget to share them in the comments section.
Maturity is a state when an individual is in a position to realize what is happening around him/her, to understand the rationale behind those happenings and does not get too elated nor too depressed by final results. Thus he/she is in a position to absorb pressures and remain unperturbed by the situations around him/her. You can realize you have now matured by looking for following signs:
1. You should have love .
Unfortunately most of all young adults don't want to "waste" time hanging around with elders. They see they are boring.
Most of us like to hangout with friends. Most of these friends are of the same age group. However, if you like to spend time with children and older people, you should consider yourself a mature individual. Quite often, spending time with people who are not in your age bracket helps you visualize life in an entirely different manner. They have a great advice with decision and financial advice.
2. You save more than what you expend
This one does not need any detail explanation. Saving more than the expenditures will itself lend credibility to your maturity status.
3. You indulge more in reading
Reading enhances knowledge, learning new words,it increases patience level,it reduces stress level and avoid depression and builds confidence.
To be updated is of utmost priority in today’s knowledge-driven society. And probably one of the best ways to get informed is to read. If you are spending more time reading, this indicates you are serious about your business which is a sign of maturity.
4. You take care of yourself as well as others
In the run of life, you may give less importance to yourself relative to your family members. However, you must realize you are no less significant. Therefore, you must take out time for yourself, and take care of your body and mind. This will, in turn lead to better performance in your duties which will render you as a responsible and matured person.
5. You seek the signs of maturity
You’re reading this article; this action itself shows you are serious about being considered mature. You now seem to shoulder your responsibilities and want to know the meaning of your existence. Therefore, you are looking for things you should know/do in order to become a responsible and mature citizen. This is a sign of you now being a mature individual.
Maturity brings with it responsibility. With responsibility comes sensibility. Sensibility leads to confidence. So move with confidence to show the world you have now matured.
6. You listen more and talk less
When we realize as human beings we are built to hear more (because we have two ears) and speak less (we have one mouth/tongue); we gain more information and whatever we speak will be based on substantial reasoning. This will provide a glimpse of a thinking individual/rational person to the audience. Thus you shall be perceived more seriously, and in turn this will add to your confidence. It is the first sign of you becoming a more matured individual than what you were before.
7. You do not shy away from responsibilities
As individuals we play a variety of roles in our societal set up. Be it for our family, our community, our friends, our country or for the human race in general. Additionally, we, being the highly successful species on Earth, should also be responsible for other species of this planet, as well as for sustaining the planet for future life forms. When you think in these terms, you behave in a more responsible manner. You not only perform your duties for your family or country, you also take care of mother earth. This makes you a matured individual on this planet.
8. You are less argumentative and more accommodating
There are times when you think you are right in an argument but by winning an argument you may lose a friend. So, it may be advisable to refrain from arguing too much at these times. Quite often, when things are normal, the other person with whom there was an argument may realize your point of view, or it is also possible you understand his/her perspective better. For, just because someone is not agreeing to you, does not mean he/she is wrong. By arguing less, you are providing the required space and prestige to others, and at the same time you are buying more time for yourself to look at the other’s argument from another angle. And additionally, you command more respect from others. This shows you are now a matured individual.
9. You enjoy each season
Most of us have a likening for either summer or winter or spring or rains. That’s fine. But there is no need to get irritated whenever your favorite season has been replaced by another one. There is a cycle of seasons and life forms adapt to that. No one can control seasonal cycles and no one should control them. So if you are enjoying changes in season, however abrupt they might seem, you have grown into a matured individual.
10. You’re straight with your communication, regardless of how unsexy it may be perceived
No one appreciates fluff, as they realize it’s unworkable. Beating around the bush, embellishment and lying are all forms of fabrication. We can’t go anywhere if everything that comes out of my mouth is a facade of the truth.
It’s not your decision to decide for other people. They will think how they want to think. Feel how they want to feel. Assign whatever meaning they want onto the words they come across. You can only do the best you can at open and honest communication.
When you are focused on other people’s approval, you lose your authenticity. When you focus on what you are committed to, the truth backs me up.
Speak from the heart, even if you’re voice shakes.
Habits that will positively improve your life forever.What makes successful people, successful you may ask?
All I can say is, it takes focus, personal discipline, and the will to make things happen frequently.
One thing they have in common is the good habits and daily rituals they foster to improve the quality of their life.
The truth is, old habits can be difficult to change, but some new essential habits you can adapt can positively improve your life forever!
Since we are what we repeatedly do, these habits (if adopted) will improve your mental and physical health.
Your overall feeling of well-being will also increase, improving your quality of life substantially.In return, you get to enjoy a happier, less stressed life with fewer health complications.
Not such a bad outcome for such little compromise, don't you think?
1.Create a morning ritual.
Waking up early isn’t the only thing that can change your life for the better.It’s also about setting up a morning routine and doing similar things orderly.
Having a to-do list as the first thing in the morning will give you the motivation and enthusiasm to take you throughout the day.
This will kick out procrastination that sometimes leaves you overwhelmed and paralyzed on what to do as the next step.
Aside from a to-do list, some morning exercises such as a run or a healthy breakfast can leave you supercharged.
If the great outdoors isn’t for you, then maybe some morning meditation and yoga would do.Maybe read an inspiring book for 30 minutes?You could also take your refreshing shower, read, or listen to the news as you drink your morning cup of coffee.
Establishing a meaningful morning ritual helps you kickstart your day on a proactive note that impacts it positively.After all, we are all creatures of habit, why not do them often if they give us pleasure?
2.Follow the 80/20 rule.
As simple as it sounds, this principle suggests that in any situation, 20% of the tasks yield 80% of the results.
This means that your to-do list is important, but the tasks that create the biggest impact deserve most of your time and energy.
If you focus on this 20%, you’d have maximized productivity and have the freedom to focus on other activities on the same to-do list.
This will help people who are easily distracted or rather very overwhelmed with a huge workload.
3.Learn to single-task.
Although you may assume because we live in a busy, bustling city so the art of multi-family comes naturally, hate to break it to you, but only 2% of people in the world can multitask successfully.
There’s no harm in multitasking occasionally, however, constant juggling between tasks limits your focus.
This in return contributes to mental clutter by making it difficult for your brain to filter out irrelevant information making your brain jump from one task to another without being able to focus properly on neither one.
A Stanford University study concluded that multitasking lowers efficiency and may impair your cognitive control.Instead of multitasking, choose one thing on your to-do list and give it your full and undivided attention until you are done.
One of the immediate visible results is that you’ll feel less stressed and restless decreasing the probability of making mistakes.
This in return makes you become more productive.
Single-tasking will make you realize you feel less stressed, make fewer mistakes, and become more productive.
4.Appreciate more.
Are you grateful for what you already have?You may be riding a bicycle to work and not that BMW you have been dreaming about, but are you grateful that you have the means to get you to work?Legs to peddle, a job, despite the high rate of unemployment?
If you feel bad about complaining about your current quality of life, remember, someone is having it worse than you, and they are equally grateful.Consciously practising gratitude should be the motto.
Tony Robbins said, “When you are grateful, fear disappears, and abundance appears.”Practising gratitude is a great way to create positivity in your life.It will help reduce stress and improve your mental health.
So, how can you cultivate this healthy habit?For a start, you could take ten minutes every day to focus on what you are grateful for—writing down at least three things daily, dwelling in their magnificence, and celebrating their gift.
Your existence is a miracle in itself, what are the odds of you being born over 400 quadrillion options?
5.Go for a social media detox.
The digital world comprises over 90% of our planet, and every time something new is trending on social media.
Maybe you are catching up on a trip that someone went or someone just bought a new house, some of the information shared can either impact you positively or negatively.
It doesn’t matter how positive it is though, sometimes you can get so consumed in social media you lose touch with reality.Not forgetting how time-consuming it is!
Research says the average person has five social media accounts and spends almost 2hours every day checking their social media feed.This has also been linked to increased depression cases due to mental clutter.
A social media detox seems to be the only reasonable remedy in such a situation to reduce stress levels.
Just switch off your phone or any other device you may use to access social media for a few hours every day to improve your mood and reconnect with the world around you.
6.Exercise often.
One should set aside at least 15 to 30 minutes within a day for exercises.I mean, countless benefits come with exercising.
Other than the physical improvement, regular workouts regularly pump up creativity and enhance your cognitive skills.
Exercise also helps decrease the risk of developing some serious health issues such as type 2 diabetes.
Exercising doesn’t have to be boring, nor does it have to involve lifting heavy equipment at the gym.
It could involve fun activities that you do for fun such as dancing around the house,playing with your pet, or even taking a walk with a friend.
Even for the greatest of fitness gurus, they can attest that starting was the hardest task.
The first month of creating a new fitness habit may seem demanding but committing yourself will help in the long run.
Your social behaviour will improve, appetite will be normal, digestion will be seamless,better sleep, improved memory, the list of benefits goes on and on!
If you are not currently in the habit of exercising, you can start gradually with minor achievable exercises.
Imagine if you only did 10 jumping jacks before you shower every day?What happens if you did this for a year, where would you be?Here’s a tip, exercising outside will not only bring you extra benefits for the bodybut also the mind and soul.
7.Invest in self-care.
Sometimes we get absorbed with work that we forget to simply take a break.It could be school, looking after the family, running our business, or even a job keeping you preoccupied.
However, sometimes it is a good idea to just sit back and relax.Taking some time off to unwind can do wonders for your mood and mental health but also self-esteem.
This can be doing at least one thing that makes you feel good daily.Watch some vlogs, listen to music, learn a new skill online, take a long bubble bath,DIY something cool, or even prepare a nice meal!Just take some time off and have fun.
8.Read Books .
There are great benefits to stimulating your brain daily, though some aren’t instantly obvious, science is proving that our brain changes as we learn.
Without exercising the brain, our brains tend to slow down and become less responsive and more prone to disease over time.
Reading books is an amazing way to gain knowledge and stimulate creativity.Just like meditation, reading books gives a calming effect and also improves focus.
Not all books have the same effect, non-fiction books are excellent for broadening the horizon by motivating you and helping you develop new ideas.
Since they are based on real-life experiences, they offer actionable advice on how to overcome all kinds of challenging situations.
It has been proven that people who continuously learn have faster responses, better social skills, and have greater overall wellbeing.
It can help to fight dementia, improve memory skills, make it easier to process new information,and makes you more productive.
Also, the idea of learning something new gives you a sense of purpose and makes you a more interesting person.
To help you ease into this habit, opt to read a book rather than social media or tv.You can even set a reminder on your phone twenty minutes before you plan to sleep and make time for this habit.
Turn off your devices, take a real book, and hold it in your hands.B0ecome absorbed into its wonder!
9.Create social connections with positive people.
As much as you may enjoy some alone time, did you know that if you want to add more days into your life, you should add some strong social ties and community support?
Social connections not only give us pleasure, but they also influence our long-term health.It’s as important as nutrition, sleep, and exercise.
Relationships are as important to us as food to our bodies or sunlight on our souls.As you do this, be mindful of the individuals you are associating yourself with.
They should also have a positive approach towards life or on the journey towards one.You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with so you shouldn't pick up some bad habits in the name of socializing.
The ones you love and care for should be somewhere on top of that list since they are the ones we lean on when stress arrives or life becomes hectic.
It doesn’t matter what you are working on or focusing on in life, as long as you organize priorities.
Think of it this way, do you remember to say “I love you” and “I appreciate you”?
Do you have a bad habit of pushing your loved ones away when more ‘important’ things come up?
Time set aside for your loved ones must be treasured.You don’t have to wait until a problem arises.
Most new relationships and friendships start with fun, excitement, and the desire to show love and enjoy life.That’s not all, being mindful to make every human interaction positive is key.
When your time on earth comes to an end, how will you be remembered?Be in the habit of leaving people in a more joyous state than when you found them instead of lowering them.
10.Practice Minimalism.
Don’t worry, I am not saying clear out all your stuff and live a hippie lifestyle.Not that there’s anything wrong with that.All I’m saying is that you may have a lot of stuff and that can negatively impact our lives.
We have a habit of collecting, displaying, moving, cleaning, and finally storing stuff.You will come to know that this stuff does not necessarily make us happy but instead just wastes our time sorting them out.
Minimalism is a health and wealth thing.As you get rid of things you do not use or need,you are left with an uncluttered simple environment and life.
It’s the art of using simple tools, keeping a simple wardrobe, carrying less, and living lightly.
Life is short and it can be hectic with sensory overload.Imagine all the distractions of “stuff”, relationships, work, and the stress of bills all at once!
Minimalism offers you the opportunity to move the focus from possessions and tasks to family and enjoyment.
It’s not a get happy quick scam, minimalism does declutter your life giving you more room for more important things that make you happy.
As you spend less on buying and replacing things, you are in return saving more.Your wealth will increase but in the same vein, so will your time.
A minimalist lifestyle will make your home easier to clean, your time easier to manage,and essentially your life easier to live!
The bonus takeaway is to determine your priorities.Getting your priorities straight will help you live a life you love.
It’s not always easy to figure things out but if you stop trying to solve many issues simultaneously, you can have a starting point and improve gradually.
Now, how about you pull up your socks, it's time to win at life!
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Adolescent and early adulthood is just too exciting, no wonder most of us make several mistakes at a time like that.
I will be sharing with you 10 mistakes most young people make and regret later in their life If you’re still young, you’ll have opportunity to correct some of these mistakes.
If you’re already 75, well, we’re sorry.
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Mistake No. 1Young People Spend money on trivial things
Most young people want to have fun; they want to enjoy their life and feel among.They look at others and want to be like them, buy what they buy and live the way they do.
Young people are more likely to run after fashion, style, fun and many more.There’s nothing bad in being fashionable and buying latest iPhones except it’s making you poorer.
As a young person, your primary assignment should be to build a solid financial foundation for your life.
To do this, you have to have the habit of saving and learn about investing.You can buy everything and anything your heart desires but that’s after you have built wealth.
I know, that’s an ugly advice for anyone at 20s, until you’re 50 and know what itmeans to be broke at such age.
Mistake No. 2.
Young people think Schooling is enough to get rich
Maybe this isn’t their fault actually,maybe we should blame the society for this.
You see, your education actually truly starts the day you leave school.You may not like to hear this but it’s the truth.The real world is very different from the four walls of the classroom.
Truly successful people are people who learn daily, even two decades after they’ve left school.
Unfortunately, most people of the world stop learning the day they leave school and that’s a big mistake that leads to poverty and unfulfilled life.
Read good books,listen to good audio program.School doesn’t teach you much things as you’ll like to believe.
Mistake No. 3
Young people tend to give up easily
It is so easy to just quit when something feels too hard.The idea of giving up what you’re doing to just try something else, can be the easier option sometimes.
It might be that you don’t like what you are doing.But the biggest mistake you can make sometimes is to give up.
Pushing through the hard times is what makes a stronger and well-rounded person.When things start getting a little tough, don’t take the easy way out.Keep on pushing through and you just might surprise yourself.
When you work through something tough and come out the other side, there is no better feeling.Don’t give up.Keep on fighting!
Mistake No. 4 Young People Do Accept Whatever they Hear and Believe anything.
Young people are people with great minds, full of opinion, but they will rarely challenge what they hear from older people.
Youth should be a time of learning, but also questioning what you are told and even get deeper into your own best thoughts and points of view.
Experience may lead you to discover that issues that seem black and white are actually many shades of gray.
Age doesn’t necessarily come wisdom, and many young people too easily accept what they hear from older generations.Following your instincts can take you a long way, if you know how to follow it well.
Mistake No. 5Young People Invest Without Research
Reading and hearing stories of people who have made millions investing on the stock market can make it very tempting to give it a go yourself but don’t do that.
Investing can be a very rewarding thing but it’s not as easy as just throwing your money away on random shares.
As a young person, you need to do some research.If you invest wrongly, it can mean you lose a lot more than you put in.
If you truly want to master investing, the best way to go about it is to study some really good books on that subject.
Taking time to read 10 good books about stock market or real estate can save you from unnecessary headache that comes with losing your hard earn investment.
Mistake No. 6
Young people always want instant gratification.
Maybe this is the biggest mistakes young people make.
Young people today are under great pressure to establish a successful career as soon as possible, to find the perfect partner at the earliest opportunity and most importantly,to enjoy themselves right here and NOW.
They always want everything NOW and that usually lead them into unnecessary short cuts, debt and unhappy future.
Mistake No. 7 Most young people don't save money.
A recent survey of 1,003 people from Bank rate found that 69% of those ages 18 to 29 had no retirement savings at all.
Your retirement may seem far off, but you're doing yourself a major disservice if you don't recognize the importance of saving as soon as possible.It’s not only retirement you should save for.You should save for investment and also for emergencies.
It’s hard to save when all your mates are buying new stuff but if you think you have a better future than theirs, you’ll be disciplined enough to save.
Mistake No. 8 Young people think that love alone is enough
To sustain a relationship Love is undoubtedly a key ingredient in making a relationship work.However, it is not sufficient.
It is possible to be very much in love with someone yet realize that the two of you are fundamentally incompatible.
The best relationships are based not on romantic love but on shared values, dreams and goals.
Communication skills and the ability to argue without hurting one another for the sake of it are also vital.
Since choosing a life partner is an important decision you’ll have to make at your 20s,knowing this truth will help you.Long lasting relationship is about love, but not just that.
Your partner must share a significant part of your values, goals and aspirations or else you won’t last together.
Mistake No. 9Young people try to please everyone.
When you're starting out as a teenager in your early career, it can seem natural to want to be on friendly terms with your boss, clients, and all of your school mates.
It may be disappointing when you found out that some of them simply don't like you and you’ll start bending to fit in to their expectations.
This is a big mistakes because there’s no formula that guarantees that everyone will like you.You must learn how to deal with haters, very important.
Mistake No. 10 Young people Blame Their Parents for their misfortune
We’re very sorry, your parents own you nothing.They invited you to this world, yes.But they probably have done the best they know how to do.
If you think their best is not good enough, guy, get out and fix your life.It’s your life and you’re the only one who is responsible.Your failure or success is yours and not your parents’
N/B If you takehtake these advices you can be a better person in life.
Okay, just before you go, here is the summary of what we’ve shared with you so far;
Delay gratification.
Don’t buy things because everyone is doing so
Learn how to save for investment and retirement purpose
Don’t believe everything.Ask questions and challenge status quo
Don’t fall in love because of love alone.
Think about values and compatibility
Don’t think you’re educated because you have degrees.
Learn every day Try things and don’t give up easily
Don’t blame your parents or government for your failure.
Take responsibility.
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