Ways for Promoting Literacy and Love for Reading in Kids.

 Ways for Promoting Literacy and Love for Reading in Kids.

Are you a parent and you don't know how to promote literacy and love for reading? Has your child ever developed the  problem of reading ? Don't worry. 

Certainly, promoting literacy and love for reading in kids is a wonderful way to set and prepare them for lifetime of learning and enjoyment. I have prepared various tips that can help your kid to develop love for literacy and reading

1.Start early.

Begin to read to your child as early as from infant,even if the kid doesn't understand the wording,but they can enjoy the sounds and rhythms and tone of your voice. You may wonder how possible is that,but keep on reading for him or her. Just have a positive mind for your kid even if she has not developed fully. By doing so you create love for reading.

2. Create a Reading Routine.

Ensure that you stick to your reading schedule. You should have a daily reading routine such as bedtime stories,this will broaden your baby's mind and makes reading a habit.

3. Be a role model in reading

Children often emulate or copy their parents behavior. You should try and read books, magazines, newspapers infront of your children. They will be motivated and become eager to know how to read on those journals.

Don't ever deny the kid the chance even to look at the pictures inside the books or Newspaper,because if you rebuke them , they will develop negative attitudes towards reading 

4. Read A loud.

Ensure that you read a loud to your kids,even after they start reading on their own . Also allow them to read  loud so that they can have the following benefits:

• Helps in building vocabulary.
• Improves comprehension and active listening.
• Reduces stress and makes them happy.
• It improves working memory.

5. Build a Home Library

Ensure  that your home has a variety of age appropriate reading books.The library should contain books like Sound and Read,My first Book to Read,My first Sound to Read,from pre-school up to University levels. You can also take your kids to community libraries or the National Libraries to read more books.

6. Join a Reading Program.

As a parent you should search and know the community that have reading programs and events for kids. For example the kid can join various clubs for reading in the society . Even some churches have the the programs for children participating in the competition of reading from the scriptures. They are told to open a certain chapter and a verse and the first one to get is being rewarded. This will create curiosity for children to read more.

7. Ask Questions

Give the child time to read a book and then ask the questions. Either you can ask them to narrate what they have read,characters or their favourite parts. Through asking questions makes them to be more keen and develop more concentration when reading a certain story. It also helps them to comprehend and develop critical thinking.

8. Let them choose.

Allow your kid to choose or select books that interest them. Even if it's not what you would  like to choose, their enthusiasm for the topic is more important. Do not ever.111 discourage them for the books they have chosen. Just encourage them to read and contemplate what is in the book. Respect their reading choices,even if they want to reread the same books ,just allow them and don't be harsh to them.

9. Limit Screen Time

Most of the kids nowadays are fond of looking at the screen so much.They can mean to watch their favourite movies of various series, either of cartoons and forget to read. You should set strict rules and boundaries when to watch the screen. Be encouraging the kid to read by setting reasonable limits on screen time,so that they have time for books.

10. Make it Fun.

You should employ funny voices and be humorous and comedic. If it's a story of a dog and a cat,just where and be like a dog or a cat and start reading for them. They will never forget about the stories and they will develop the interest of reading the books.

12. Celebrate Achievements. Whenever a baby makes a milestone in reading books,just appreciate them. Give them appraisal awards even by congratulating them or even promise to buy them their favourite toys or items,this will accelerate their reading habits. Positive reinforcement encourages reading . Always avoid small criticism even if they haven't achieved what you needed. By supporting them and encouraging them,gives them hope to work hard.

13. Support their Curiosity.

Most of the kids are curious and they keep on discovering and asking new things about certain areas like .Why am I a boy or a girl,who is God and who created me.You can read for them books and explain to them so that they can easily understand. Take time to look for answers in the books and they will develop and will like reading.

14. Visit Author Events.

If possible look for the authors of the books or attend author's events or books signing to show the real people behind the stories.

Conclusion

Promoting literacy and love for reading starts with you as a parent. Always remember to encourage your child to read by building a home library, supporting their curiosity,reading in their presence. 

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6 Factors promoting good relationship in the family

 

Most of the  families are living far and even meeting each other is a problem.  Due to modernity and economic problems, everyone is on his /her toes , moving up and down to see what the family will eat. 

Most of the families nowdays are not in good relationship to each other. They are not staying together as our great great grandparents did. The strong bondage that existed has become extinct and family gatherings are no longer conducted. It has become the world of various countries in it,that each country is struggling to regain her economy. This applies tho our homes today ,that everyone is in his/her toes or struggling to gain independence from the colonists.

Most of the family members are ever busy and due to poor economy, it has made them not to bother other families. People have migrated or rather have thrown away the responsibility of taking care 9f their fellow family members. They no longer communicate ,visit, perform ceremonies thus leading to breakage of family relation. 

You can refer to 8 Factors affecting family relation.

The following are the factors that can create,promote bondage or good family relation

1.Communication

Whenever, when there's good communication in every situation , that's the problem solver in any condition. Think of a situation where  there's no communication on the people who are living in the same house,in the same bedroom,the same bed or same apartment. What would be the consequences?. I think it would be a horrible place that one would not wish to stay or to live in.

Whenever people aren't living together,they should develop the heart of calling or communicating each other. Members of the family who aren't staying together,living much far,or others who are working or studying abroad,they should at least spare time to say hi to their fellow family members. 

Take a case whereby the father or the mother isn't staying together with the children almost 2 years,what would the children think of their parents? The children will eventually loose the direct child -parent love , because they no longer communicate or trust him /her as their parent.

A responsible parent should always try to communicate to the family no matter how you are committed. Try even to video call,zoom,Skype so that children can know you by face and they will feel comfortable when talking .

In extended family ,the members will also try to call each other to know the well being of others,how they wake in the morning,how their day ended,their health and other social factors affecting them. Most of the family members have neglected others because they prefer to be concerned about their intermediate members. If for example you call a sick person and you give him just hope that she/he will get well soon ,only those words can create good relationship and the person can always be appreciative.

Don't wait until something bad happens, that's when you remember that you had a relative. Just call in good and bad times to create strong bondage.

What type of communication to use?

You can use the calls through the phones,video calls on WhatsApp, Facebook, Skype,zoom and other gadgets.

How and when will you communicate?

You should always try to calendar yourself and communicate with your members,even if after one day,two days or every week if you are working or living abroad.

2 .Visitation.

Visitation is very important among family members. Most of the family members due to poor economy, family conflicts, despising each other,and other factors,it has cut short the visitation that our forefathers had. 

You find some of the family members ,they don't know each other since childhood. They can even pass by without noticing or recognizing one another. Most of the family members have divide and rule plus the cold war among themselves. They don't even allow their children to play with other children from the other family. Because the parents had a disagreement or a fight, they recommend their children not to go near or in any case they don't school together,because they believe in witchcraft.

The visitation which was long ago ,it has elapsed. I remember when I was young we could visit our cousins during the long holidays. We could enjoy playing together, eating together, sleeping ,going to church together and we could even tell others how best our village or school is. But nowdays, it's along story. 

Most of the paying a visit has become "hot Air".Where things are no longer working and become precipitated. Some families had the schedule of visiting each other monthly.

When it comes to visiting, the family members can know each other and can develop strong relationship. 

The following are importance of visitation.

• It provides an opportunity to stay in touch with other family members
• It help members to express their emotions.
• It helps people to discover the failures and weakness of others and try to advise them.
• It fosters family -family good relationships.
• It provides an opportunity to refresh and enjoy together as family members.

How often do you visit each other?

It may be monthly,annually or the family members can decide.

Can visitation bring any change among the family members?

Yes, because through visitation members can know each other and they can develop a strong family relationship.

3. Gathering in ceremony

When members of the family meet together, celebrate and hang out ,it really creates good family relationship. Most of the families gather together in a manner that they intend to know each other. When I was young ,I saw in our family we used to gather together either in December and we will slaughter a goat and we would share and enjoy together. All the family members from my mother's side would come even if they lived in urban areas. They would make sure that they attend the ceremony and nobody compromised.

Nowdays there are no more gatherings,because of the modernity. Some people are ever busy either in terms of jobs, schooling,staying far away from other family members (abroad) which makes the family members not to meet.

Some family members have opted not to gather or visit each during the long holidays like December to visit even their grandparents, cousins,aunties and uncles. I think if we live like in the old days the family gatherings will be more valuable to the family members.

Despite of the economy ,the education,living in towns or abroad or any conflicts among the family members, gatherings shouldn't be exceptional. Family members will sit down together and they will discuss various issues that would and develop the firm relationship

4 . Having chamas,self help group

Members in the family are supposed to have self-help groups, "chamas" that would enhance the family relationship. For example if they do merry go round and this can be done through online, physical and members can organise to visit each other in their homes.

The self help groups have always maintained the good family relationship. The members contribute the money and they decide on what to do with the money and this can make a person von toes to confirm from others ,thus good relation.

5 .Team work

Members who have good team for example when bereavement comes or in other functions maybe in times of sicknesses and sorrow it creates good family relationship.

Participating in providing moral support during sorrow, makes somebody to feel comforted. Or if one of the family member has a ceremony like a wedding, paying of dowry,lacks school fees or any other problem,members are supposed to chip in and stretch their helping hand.

6. Appreciation

Members in the family should try to appreciate each other . Whenever a person does good either in helping , academics,talents and any other good performance. If we appreciate each other moreso kids it will make them to be active and try to work hard thus promoting positive impacts in life.

Through all these we find the importance of good family relationship.

• It helps the family to resolve family conflicts easily.
• It helps people to express their feelings,emotions easily.
• It creates team work,good communication and appreciation.
• It makes persons to develop positive attitudes towards each other.

In conclusion , for good relationship can be of great importance if only members can have good team work , communication, gatherings and ceremonies that would bring people together.

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8 Factors affecting good relations in the family.

Most of the families have lost the direction and diverted into a lot of issues that have created a bigger gap in the family. 

Most of the family members have sorted to various activities in terms of providing for the family. They don't even seem to care about the fellow members in the house. They have switched their roles to other people instead of themselves doing their responsibility. 

In our modern society , it has become like struggle for the fittest in the house. Meaning that , each and every should mind his or her own business not of others. Many parents have been taken by various factors even they don't even know that they have children to look after. They have numerous reasons not to be at home at the right time and have handed the responsibility to nannies.

The following are various factors that that hindered bondage in the family.

1. Communication

Nowdays there are no one on one communication. Before then our great grandparents had a good way of talking to each other. Let's say a problem has risen among the couples, instead of sitting together and talk about the problem and it's solution,they cut off communication. You find others they don't even talk to each other when a problem comes. Some even don't eat because he/ she wronged you. Instead of sleeping in the same bed room you sort to sleep on the couch or in a different bedroom, to avoid seeing beach other. 

A good family is the that sits together and talk friendly to one another. Causing tantrums and commotion in the house doesn't make you a hero, it makes you to create more problems in the house.  If it's the child who has done wrong, discipline him/her politely ,try to explain why or how it's bad to do that mistake and it's consequences. Definitely a child will understand and change his behaviors. 

Don't be rush to rebuke the kid,just try to to talk friendly to him/her and I think this one will solve everything. Children needs someone who counsels them and who embraces or instills good attitude to them .

On the side of the parents, fighting or quarrelling the whole night, refusing to eat or not providing for the family isn't a solution just sit down and talk. Or you can have a day out or night out ,you go there and discuss the issue and solve the problem. I think  communication is all the master solver for all problems.

2. The screen

When it comes to screen,there are alot of things to talk about. Due to modernity many family members have sorted to engage themselves on the screens. 

Mobile phones. This includes iPad ,tablets and other gadgets. Imagine walking in in a family and you find the mother is on the phone, the father is on the laptop and children are watching cartoons and nobody seems to care each other. You will even find yourself talking to yourself.  You try to engage them in a talk ,but none seems to bother. 

The children will be  hungry because the mum will be watching tiktok, Instagrams, Facebook Whatsapp chatting with somebody until she forgets to prepare meals for the family. The child will be having a good message to pass to the parent , but because the mother is preparing some live videos on Facebook, tiktok linked , Whatsapp status she doesn't care about the children. You would find the child has soiled her clothes and she even starts to smear it on the floor and the mother even has not noticed of not aware what's happening in the house.

The kids had been given homework and they are supposed to seek help from the parents .When the children approaches the father, he sends them back  not showing any fatherly love to the kid. Because he is busy chatting and looking on status on how young ladies are shaking their boobs and buttocks,and talking to side chics,his mind is altered and doesn't reason beyond that.

The teens have also been mislead by the social media.  They no longer do or help their parents in the house. They are always on the internet downloading love songs, chatting with their boy friends and girlfriends, making videos on tiktok, Instagrams, Whatsapp status others if not carefully monitored would be watching pornographic.  If a parent needed something and tries to call one of the teens , he would be deceiving herself , because there will be no response from them. 

The children when it comes to watching cartoons, it's like their meal. Even you you try to tell them to eat first ,they will not until you switch off the TV and you be on their neck so that they can take their meals. You find them in school talking of a certain program and other children are busy commenting, so this gives them the psyche to watch on the programs on the TV. They even forget to do their homework, helping their parents and they seems not to care at all.

Unless we cut of spending much time on screen, then our families are doomed and we can't have good -children relationship in our homes.

 3. Time

Most of the parents don't have time for their families. You find a parent goes for work from 4am and returns home at 10pm when everyone in the house is a sleep. She or he doesn't know how the children slept, what they ate,how they did their assignment and about their health. The children see him/ her only on weekends probably when they go to church or when the parent is having the offs.

All the responsibility have be delighted to the nannies. Most of this nannies they don't have the knowledge on parenting and they can teach the children,all kinds of behaviours that are vice in the society. Imagine a mother who is breastfeeding comes home at 10pm and finds the kid is a sleep and the kid doesn't have enough time to breastfeed.

4.Work

Work has killed the togetherness in the family. Most of the parents have put more energy and time on work forgetting their counterparts children. They spend whole day working and he/she doesn't have space to communicate to their children. I don't discourage parents not to search for jobs or to have self employment,but they should try to have a parenthood in them. Sometimes work should not be our first priority in life. Let the family come first and the rest follows. 

Imagine a parent or the family members who are always on toes going  for work from morning to evening, coming home is late even you don't know your neighbours. They maybe knowing you, and when you meet on the street you don't greet them, they will even say that you no longer recognize people and in the really sense you don't know them.

Just try to have family meeting with your family when you have a day off ,to discover what is happening to your kids or other family members

Some people are assuming that, everyone understands that am busy and I don't have time for family gatherings. Forgetting that,people do commit their own time and space ,so that they can create good rapport in the family.

5. Separation

Most of the parents nowdays they prefer separation, which makes members of the family not to be together. You may find the father may decide to take his boy child and the wife takes the girls. Through this, the children may not have that bondness in the as a brother and sister.

Sometimes,a husband and wife can separate and the wife takes the children and children would not have that fatherly love. Maybe there would be a  problem in the family, but  we should sometimes try to figure out about the children. Children can loose trust to those parents , because they no longer recognize them as their guardians. 

The children in both sides develop weird behavior, because they are being brought in different environment this triggering good character. They maybe talking through the phone, but it doesn't mean that they will have that stronger love among the family members. Children will not even know their cousins, aunties and uncles plus their grandparents.

6. Divorce

Most of the family members have preferred to have divorce and they no longer want to live together. Through this ,the family relationship has became like a foregone folktale. 

The good relationship that existed between the two families, has become no longer in existence. You find the wife and husband, each one wants to go with the kids and the court has to intervene and decide where the children will stay until they reach at a certain age.

7.Rural-urban migration.

Most of the families have gone or migrated to town in search of green pastures.  Others are living in towns because they have been posted there to work thus limiting them to have good relationship with other family members. 

Preferably,others have decided to move to other places to avoid conflicts,others believe in witchcraft that if they stay at home, the people in the village will not feel good for them because they are wealth. Others have been chased or excommunicated from the community because they did some vices that aren't accepted by the community.

Through this, it has led to breakage of family bondage. Even if the problem arises at rural home ,they aren't ready to help or be together with other family members. Even when the funeral arises, the persons in charge are those near the family, but those living in urban ,they seem not to care.

8.Going abroad

Most of the family haven't have good relationship with their members, because of long distance relationship. You find the father or the mother has been blessed and has gone to a broad in terms of further studies, scholarship, Green cards,or jobs. A person takes almost 2 years or one year before he/she comes back to his country, thus limiting strong relationship. A child may grew or be born without seeing his father,because the father had gone a broad.

It makes children to be raised by one parent which kills the morale of bondage and trustfulness among the members.

In family relationship it's good to ensure that you video call , you can call or try to visit every mother or after two week even you are living in urban areas. Those in a broad try as much as possible not to exceed two years or if possible you can visit yearly.

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Family conflicts/ rivalry in our homes

A family is made up of a father, mother , brother, sister and a baby . That's how my son defines a family and when I try to tell him that his uncle from both sides plus his cousins are a family, he dismisses and says  they don't belong to our family. 

He is four years-old  may be when he will learn about types of family that's when he will understand it. 

A family is a group of people of father mother and children or near or distance relatives who are related either by birth, blood or they  have a common ancestry. 

Most families tend to stay together,and even they do things as a family. They can have family gatherings,and some special ceremonies that they visit each other they drink and eat together. Through this it creates strong family ties.

I have seen most of families helping each other in terms of finance,food , clothes and other basic needs. Or when or if it just happen that one of their member dies , they will gather and plan a good send off to the deceased. Each family has a certain  sum of money to contribute and this creates a good bondage a month the members.

Through this activities the family ties extends and even they start the chamas or merry go round to contribute monthly.

Most of the members have developed financially and other haven't. But even if all this togetherness, visitation, stretching an helping hand to certain people and the officials try to maintain peace and cohesion. Even in the market you can't or you will not miss mad man or woman that who tries to bring chaos and disrupt people.

Even in most families you can miss a weed that wants to grow in a rock even where there's no essential or even if the conditions of germination are present, there seems to be factors that affect germination. So in every family even if  both of them are staunch Christians there will be a pagan who will go against the Christian's teaching. Likewise to family members. There are some members who are ever opposing on whatever decision which is being made in the family. 

They stand to be against, when others are going to East,them they are moving to West. So when making decisions it became a difficult this creating enermity. You can make proposals and you agree, but two or four people they go s head and they will hold their side meeting and they start criticism and eventually conflicts arise or emerge.

The family members envy each other and even they don't greet each other and some start believing or practicing sorcerer and they end up killing each other.

So in every family which is like a society or a community , it has a lot of conflicts. The following are types of family conflicts. These conflicts can be  a result from land , marriage,will,money,children ,cattles, poultry or even gossip or jealous.

Siblings- siblings conflicts

Have you ever seen the siblings who grew up in the same homestead and they slept , ate,played together and eventually they became enemies. This rivalry became through over a small or a slight mistake. It could be due to property distribution,kids who fight unnecessary over food because they don't want to share, or you find that no one wants his/her items to be touched by somebody else.

This unnecessarily fights comes and even if a parent tries to intervene, they will leave for sometime and they will start again.

Also the older siblings will quarrel over property sharing. For example if the parents had alot of wealth and if it happens that the father has passed on before had divided the properties to his children, definitely it will result into disagreement.

Parent-parent conflict

Have you ever thought that their would be a conflict among parents? Yes it's true,because they would be fighting over things like:

 They would be disagreement on who provides to the family. Most families tend to know that it's only the husband that provides for the family. So even if the wife is working she doesn't provide and she forgets that if the husband God forbid he dies she will take the full responsibility of the family.

Another point,where you find the husband or the wife is a drunkard and seems not to care about his/ her family. Imagine somebody who goes to drink and comes home at midnight not knowing what the kids ate, did the children do the homework? Did they take bath or did they encounter any challenges at school or at home. So through this weird behavior leads to fight among them.

 Parent-children conflicts

There are some cases where the parents have disagreement with their children. The children will be lacking respect to their parents or parents not providing for their kids.

Some parents tends to forget their responsibilities as the parents in the house. For example they tend not to care about  what their children are going through. They don't bother to be near their family members and they act awkwardly when they are wrong.

I have seen where a father doesn't pay school fees, buy basic needs like clothes,food and good shelter ,

Parents who have partiality when it comes  to owning properties. You find a parent has  a tendency of loving some children more than other,even he / she makes the children hate one another. The children start to scold each other that you are not loved because you don't Excell in class.

Some parents site with children to go against one of their parents, especially the mothers.  You find the boys love their mothers and if it happens that their father is drunkard ,they will not respect him. They will not have that children dad love instead they will not even give food to him ,because they think that he isn't a good father.

Children also they can despise their children because they are poor. Most of the teens at their early age ,they don't want to introduce their parents to their friends because they feel that they will be looked down by their colleagues. So you find that parents become disturbed . If it was parents needed in school, these kids can even do it intentionally not to show their schoolmates, because they don't drive like other parents. They keep on abusing them why can't they be like other parents who own vehicles and other luxurious things. Through all these, it creates enemity between the parent and children.

Cousin -cousin conflicts

This conflicts comes due to inherited enemity between parents. You may find that, cousins from the father's side have the grudge may on issues of land or any other properties. They don't even say hi to each other and they don't borrow anything from one another.

A parent can prevent his/her children from even playing together, schooling in the same school,or even they don't visit each other not forgetting eating at their cousin's home. This rivalry has even caused some of the kids not to have that extended fraternity in them. They don't even respect their aunties and uncles or even their fellow age mate cousins.

Most of the cousins can fight due to ancestral land that their grandfather's had. They feel that one family was favoured that the other one. They even end up in court so they they can get justice. Some have sorted to even put parameter walls that they don't want to see each other.

There are other conflicts in the family like physical,sexual, psychological,verbal and mentally. 

If you have any other conflicts you can add it in the comment section.

7 Ways to normally engage your children in various situations.

Do you have children or are you intending to have them in future. How are you planning or engaging them in various activities at home or outside your home. 

Do you allow them to active or passive in the house. I know most of the parents have nannies, houshelps or shamba boys and you don't allow your children to do house chores or even try to learn some skills that would help them in future.

Most of the parents , they don't even allow the kids to be associated with some activities. They say that they have hired the nanny,house helps  and their is no need of kids doing the chores. They instead allow the children to watch cartoons, movies and even they tell them read, forgetting that no work makes jack fully boy.

You may force your kids to read and forgetting that they are not associated with white collar jobs. They maybe having  a passion in doing odd jobs. Allowing kids to practice unskilled skills will help them to to develop mentally and physically.

The following are activities that you will engage your children at various situations.

 1.Doing house chores

House chores are sometimes good for our kids. You can allow your children to do the following

  .Washing utensils. Children can be involved by washing utensils. You should make rules that if he /she has finished eating or taking any food ,they are supposed to take the utensils back to the sink and each and every one should wash it. Sometimes you may find the sink is too high for them to reach but you shouldn't worry. Do this, look for basins let them put water and they start cleaning the utensils. Make sure they place the duster or moppers ready because they can pour water all over. Instruct them to clean the floor after they have finished. Doing this they will become responsible and they can easily develop positive impressions on cleanliness.

  2.  Cleaning the compound. You can make your children to clean the compound by doing the following: collecting litter, sweeping,uprooting the weeds.

 3.Feeding the poultry. If you have poultry in your farm you can engage children in feeding them. They can give the feeds and give them water or they can also clean the chicken house or collecting the eggs.

 4.Reading. You can keep busy your kids by involving them by reading story books and they tell each what they have learnt. This would lead to good memorialization and easily remember. They can also be reading the Bible verses to each other. You give out the verses to read and you assign each and everyone what to read.

5.Competition. Children can be competing each, through memory verses, reciting poems,reading the Bible verses,singing, dancing,counting,skirting , running along the compound, playing with blocks by building houses with different levels,colouring 

and other activities. I am sure if you make them busy, they will enjoy and develop mentally, socially, physically and even spiritually.

6.Adventure. You can take your children to new places like museums,animal Park,archives, archaeological sites,for example in Africa you can take them to Fort Jesus,kariandusi Koobi Fora,and others. They can learn alot by seeing than reading from books. If they see wild animals like lion ,elephant, giraffe, cheetah, hyenas and other animals,they will have a know how knowledge than reading from books. They can ride on a horse ,swim, twisting tunnels, the slides, climbing nets, bowling, darts, golfing . Children like to discover new things and activities in their life and this will make them to be more active in life.

7.Going for tutions and tutorials. If children are at home for an holiday,just look for tutions sessions that can keep them busy. You may take them to practice on how to sing,play pianos, guitars, computer lessons and some creative arts. Most of the kids enjoy making or discovering new ideas in life. 

Don't leave your children to be idle,just engage them in activities that can enable them to develop mentally, socially, physically and even spiritually. 

Please if you have any other tips on how to engage the children , you are free to list them in the comment section and don't forget to share .

10 Signs showing maturity in a person

 Maturity is a state when an individual is in a position to realize what is happening around him/her, to understand the rationale behind those happenings and does not get too elated nor too depressed by final results. Thus he/she is in a position to absorb pressures and remain unperturbed by the situations around him/her. You can realize you have now matured by looking for following signs:

1. You should have love .

Unfortunately most of all young adults don't want to "waste" time hanging around with elders. They see they are boring.

Most of us like to hangout with friends. Most of these friends are of the same age group. However, if you like to spend time with children and older people, you should consider yourself a mature individual. Quite often, spending time with people who are not in your age bracket helps you visualize life in an entirely different manner. They have a great advice with decision and financial advice.

2. You save more than what you expend

This one does not need any detail explanation. Saving more than the expenditures will itself lend credibility to your maturity status.

3. You indulge more in reading

Reading enhances knowledge, learning new words,it increases patience level,it reduces stress level and avoid depression and builds confidence.

To be updated is of utmost priority in today’s knowledge-driven society. And probably one of the best ways to get informed is to read. If you are spending more time reading, this indicates you are serious about your business which is a sign of maturity.

4. You take care of yourself as well as others

In the run of life, you may give less importance to yourself relative to your family members. However, you must realize you are no less significant. Therefore, you must take out time for yourself, and take care of your body and mind. This will, in turn lead to better performance in your duties which will render you as a responsible and matured person.

5. You seek the signs of maturity

You’re reading this article; this action itself shows you are serious about being considered mature. You now seem to shoulder your responsibilities and want to know the meaning of your existence. Therefore, you are looking for things you should know/do in order to become a responsible and mature citizen. This is a sign of you now being a mature individual.

Maturity brings with it responsibility. With responsibility comes sensibility. Sensibility leads to confidence. So move with confidence to show the world you have now matured.

6. You listen more and talk less

When we realize as human beings we are built to hear more (because we have two ears) and speak less (we have one mouth/tongue); we gain more information and whatever we speak will be based on substantial reasoning. This will provide a glimpse of a thinking individual/rational person to the audience. Thus you shall be perceived more seriously, and in turn this will add to your confidence. It is the first sign of you becoming a more matured individual than what you were before.

7. You do not shy away from responsibilities

As individuals we play a variety of roles in our societal set up. Be it for our family, our community, our friends, our country or for the human race in general. Additionally, we, being the highly successful species on Earth, should also be responsible for other species of this planet, as well as for sustaining the planet for future life forms. When you think in these terms, you behave in a more responsible manner. You not only perform your duties for your family or country, you also take care of mother earth. This makes you a matured individual on this planet.

8. You are less argumentative and more accommodating

There are times when you think you are right in an argument but by winning an argument you may lose a friend. So, it may be advisable to refrain from arguing too much at these times. Quite often, when things are normal, the other person with whom there was an argument may realize your point of view, or it is also possible you understand his/her perspective better. For, just because someone is not agreeing to you, does not mean he/she is wrong. By arguing less, you are providing the required space and prestige to others, and at the same time you are buying more time for yourself to look at the other’s argument from another angle. And additionally, you command more respect from others. This shows you are now a matured individual.

9. You enjoy each season

Most of us have a likening for either summer or winter or spring or rains. That’s fine. But there is no need to get irritated whenever your favorite season has been replaced by another one. There is a cycle of seasons and life forms adapt to that. No one can control seasonal cycles and no one should control them. So if you are enjoying changes in season, however abrupt they might seem, you have grown into a matured individual.

10. You’re straight with your communication, regardless of how unsexy it may be perceived

No one appreciates fluff, as they realize it’s unworkable. Beating around the bush, embellishment and lying are all forms of fabrication. We can’t go anywhere if everything that comes out of my mouth is a facade of the truth.

It’s not your decision to decide for other people. They will think how they want to think. Feel how they want to feel. Assign whatever meaning they want onto the words they come across. You can only do the best you can at open and honest communication.

When you are focused on other people’s approval, you lose your authenticity. When you focus on what you are committed to, the truth backs me up.

Speak from the heart, even if you’re voice shakes.

Always Be Silent In Five Situation

Hello ,good people have come a cross in your life where you can't keep quiet or be silent even if the situations is burning. Below are five situations where you should stay silent even if you will be looked down upon.

Your silence can be of great importance and achievement in your life. Because it prevents scolding, fighting and other verbal vices.

Number one .When your judgment is clouded

The first case when you should not speak up is when you are having trouble thinking clearly. This can be for many reasons maybe you are tired or under the influence or full of anger or anxiety.

In these situations it's better to wait a little before you speak your mind.If you don't it is possible that you will say something you will regret afterward.

If you give your ideas time to mature and still think the same way,you can talk about it later but not when you are compromised emotionally or in other ways.

Number two.

When your words will be hurtful.

The second situation in which you should not speak up ,is when your words are more likely to be hurtful beyond being useful.

Sure there are situations when others need to hear the truth harsh as it may be, but these situations are rarer than we think.

Consider whether the words you want to speak are going to be useful or if you are acting to hurt the other person.

Number three. When your opinion doesn't

matter.

The next situation when you should not speak up is when your opinion is irrelevant.

It's never easy to admit and accept it.However ,it's very important even if our ego doesn't agree.

When you don't know enough about a situation or other people are experts or when your opinion has no impact on others.

It's often better to stay silent just because it's the wisest thing to do.Silence is the best answer to someone who doesn't value your words.

Number four . When you don't have enough

evidence.

Sure in some situations we are free to speculate and speak up even if we don't have evidence.

However, this is not always true when we are talking about something that will likely have a big impact on another person.

For instance on their physical and mental well-being ,we should not offer information that is not certain.

Hearsay might be fine in some contexts but if our hearsay can sway a big decision it's best not to speak.

Say for instance that a person is considering whether to use a medication that might help them,it's best not to bring up a rumor about a friend of a friend who used that medication and had side effects unlessyou are certain it's a fact and not a rumor.

Number five . When asked not to speak

If recognizing that your opinion is not relevant, is hard for the ego being asked to stay silent is even harder.

You might be asked to take a back seat in some situations for instance in some work ,contexts or in other circumstances and that can make us want to speak up.

However, it's best to restrain that impulse and instead reflect why are we being asked to stay silent,listening and learning can also be good in these situations.

Number six .When you don't have anything to say.

Just because you feel you ought to add something doesn't mean you should,instead you might support what someone else has said.

It can feel awkward saying that you don't have something to add but it is usually better than speaking for the sake of speaking.

Allow yourself to admit when there is nothing to add,be careful with your words once they are said they can be only forgiven not forgotten.

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10 Mistakes Most Young People Make & Regret Later in Life

Adolescent and early adulthood is just too exciting, no wonder most of us make several mistakes at a time like that.

I will be sharing with you 10 mistakes most young people make and regret later in their life If you’re still young, you’ll have opportunity to correct some of these mistakes.

If you’re already 75, well, we’re sorry.

Hahahaha….

Mistake No. 1 Young People Spend money on trivial things

Most young people want to have fun; they want to enjoy their life and feel among.They look at others and want to be like them, buy what they buy and live the way they do.

Young people are more likely to run after fashion, style, fun and many more.There’s nothing bad in being fashionable and buying latest iPhones except it’s making you poorer.

As a young person, your primary assignment should be to build a solid financial foundation for your life.

To do this, you have to have the habit of saving and learn about investing.You can buy everything and anything your heart desires but that’s after you have built wealth.

I know, that’s an ugly advice for anyone at 20s, until you’re 50 and know what itmeans to be broke at such age.

Mistake No. 2.

Young people think Schooling is enough to get rich

Maybe this isn’t their fault actually,maybe we should blame the society for this.

You see, your education actually truly starts the day you leave school.You may not like to hear this but it’s the truth.The real world is very different from the four walls of the classroom.

Truly successful people are people who learn daily, even two decades after they’ve left school.

Unfortunately, most people of the world stop learning the day they leave school and that’s a big mistake that leads to poverty and unfulfilled life.

Read good books,listen to good audio program.School doesn’t teach you much things as you’ll like to believe.

Mistake No. 3

Young people tend to give up easily 

It is so easy to just quit when something feels too hard.The idea of giving up what you’re doing to just try something else, can be the easier option sometimes.

It might be that you don’t like what you are doing.But the biggest mistake you can make sometimes is to give up.

Pushing through the hard times is what makes a stronger and well-rounded person.When things start getting a little tough, don’t take the easy way out.Keep on pushing through and you just might surprise yourself.

When you work through something tough and come out the other side, there is no better feeling.Don’t give up.Keep on fighting!

Mistake No. 4 Young People Do Accept Whatever they Hear and Believe anything.

Young people are people with great minds, full of opinion, but they will rarely challenge what they hear from older people.

Youth should be a time of learning, but also questioning what you are told and even get deeper into your own best thoughts and points of view.

Experience may lead you to discover that issues that seem black and white are actually many shades of gray.

Age doesn’t necessarily come wisdom, and many young people too easily accept what they hear from older generations.Following your instincts can take you a long way, if you know how to follow it well.

Mistake No. 5 Young People Invest Without Research

Reading and hearing stories of people who have made millions investing on the stock market can make it very tempting to give it a go yourself but don’t do that.

Investing can be a very rewarding thing but it’s not as easy as just throwing your money away on random shares.

As a young person, you need to do some research.If you invest wrongly, it can mean you lose a lot more than you put in.

If you truly want to master investing, the best way to go about it is to study some really good books on that subject.

Taking time to read 10 good books about stock market or real estate can save you from unnecessary headache that comes with losing your hard earn investment.

Mistake No. 6

Young people always want instant gratification.

 Maybe this is the biggest mistakes young people make.

Young people today are under great pressure to establish a successful career as soon as possible, to find the perfect partner at the earliest opportunity and most importantly,to enjoy themselves right here and NOW.

They always want everything NOW and that usually lead them into unnecessary short cuts, debt and unhappy future.

Mistake No. 7 Most young people don't save money.

A recent survey of 1,003 people from Bank rate found that 69% of those ages 18 to 29 had no retirement savings at all.

Your retirement may seem far off, but you're doing yourself a major disservice if you don't recognize the importance of saving as soon as possible.It’s not only retirement you should save for.You should save for investment and also for emergencies.

It’s hard to save when all your mates are buying new stuff but if you think you have a better future than theirs, you’ll be disciplined enough to save.

Mistake No. 8 Young people think that love alone is enough

To sustain a relationship Love is undoubtedly a key ingredient in making a relationship work.However, it is not sufficient.

It is possible to be very much in love with someone yet realize that the two of you are fundamentally incompatible.

The best relationships are based not on romantic love but on shared values, dreams and goals.

Communication skills and the ability to argue without hurting one another for the sake of it are also vital.

Since choosing a life partner is an important decision you’ll have to make at your 20s,knowing this truth will help you.Long lasting relationship is about love, but not just that.

Your partner must share a significant part of your values, goals and aspirations or else you won’t last together.

Mistake No. 9 Young people try to please everyone.

When you're starting out as a teenager in your early career, it can seem natural to want to be on friendly terms with your boss, clients, and all of your school mates.

It may be disappointing when you found out that some of them simply don't like you and you’ll start bending to fit in to their expectations.

This is a big mistakes because there’s no formula that guarantees that everyone will like you.You must learn how to deal with haters, very important.

Mistake No. 10 Young people Blame Their Parents for their misfortune 

We’re very sorry, your parents own you nothing.They invited you to this world, yes.But they probably have done the best they know how to do.

If you think their best is not good enough, guy, get out and fix your life.It’s your life and you’re the only one who is responsible.Your failure or success is yours and not your parents’

N/B If you takehtake these  advices you can be a better person in life.

Okay, just before you go, here is the summary of what we’ve shared with you so far;

• Delay gratification.
• Don’t buy things because everyone is doing so
• Learn how to save for investment and retirement purpose
• Don’t believe everything.Ask questions and challenge status quo
•  Don’t fall in love because of love alone.
• Think about values and compatibility
• Don’t think you’re educated because you have degrees.
• Learn every day Try things and don’t give up easily
• Don’t blame your parents or government for your failure.
• Take responsibility.

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Things That INSTANTLY Make You Look CHEAP | HOW TO LOOK EXPENSIVE on a BUDGET in 2023

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Hello good people ,am going to be shaking some tables here so come closer.  Let me tell you why you always look cheap isn't that amazing.

This article is for those who want to know more about looking Chic and looks expensive without breaking the bank.  I'll be sharing some common ways you're making your outfit look cheap and what you could do instead . 

This video is not to brush anyone, but just to say that it is and hopefully some people can make the changes that they seek. If however you

dress or  your look makes you happy, do you Boo and pro that style is pretty much subjective. 

 You look cheap by :

 Wearing different logos in one outfit

• Looking expensive has little or nothing to do with money, let that sink in as a matter of fact.  You can be wearing all the designers on Earth and still look very cheap to the person sitting next to you. 
• I understand I can be a nice touch to add a designer logo here and there to your outfit however,adding too much is a major fashion faux fur button designer logos from head to toe will make your outfit look less polished and honestly cheaply done.
•  The best way I would say to wear designer logos without overdoing them is by choosing one piece that makes your outfit stand out instead of wearing Gucci tights ,Fendi t-shirts, LV earrings,Mac and Mac poems ,YSL bag, in one look.
•  I would suggest you choose one or at most two designer items to Showcase in one outfit whether it's your belt, your shoes,your dress or any other accessory . 

Do not go all out with a lot of designers in one look, you might think it makes you look expensive and ready to show the whole world that you can afford these thin

2. Wig cap wearing outside

• Maybe we should stop it. I go out and I see people with wig cap, you know that normal Brown recap that they give you as compliments when you get weaker. If you get weak from chess's you get that complimentary wig cap right
• wearing your Bonnet outside ,I think Ican sound that better than seeing you with wig cap outside that makes you look very cute. 
• If your wig is in the salon,you're going to pick it up don't wear that. You're getting on the road instead inside go to the salon , fix your hair and come out or even tie a scarf.

 3.Primary colors and plain clothing black

• Using the method of wearing a singular color all over from head to toe has a term: monochrome. 
• Monochromatic looks have become all the rage in the past years. With head to toe red, blue, or yellow, you can stand out while looking polished and cohesive! A tip is to try and match each shade correctly so that the look is more tied together. 
• If you’re experimenting with hues, then go for a mixture or bolder and darker shades. During the cold winter months, opting for a primary colored coat and matching your outfit is the way to go. Your outfit will end up looking like a pull from an editorial shoot—and that’s always the best feeling. 
• white colors make you look very crisp very smart and they make you look expensive .
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Undergarments showing from your clothing

• Panty lines are caused by poor-fitting or poorly constructed undies combined with lightweight or tight clothes. Heavy seams on panties are the most common culprit. Those seams either sit on top of a woman’s rump, creating a ridge line, or they dig into the backside, leaving an indentation. Either way, anyone standing behind you will have full knowledge of the shape of your underwear.

• If you decide to wear share clothing invest in um seamless undergarments in nude color in black or in the color of the outfit that you have on with thistype of undergarments you can really. 
• Wear a dress or your favorite pants andnot have to worry about panty lines.

Don't dress for your body type

• I'm Pro confident self-love body positivity but let me break it to you.That BBL dress you see hanging in the boutique or that dress they say one size fits all does not necessarily mean that it is for your body type . You don't have the body type of the person that they intended the dress to be for so . Why squeeze yourself into it , Why for goodness sake you could be wearing adress that is so expensive but once it's. ill-fitting.

So please dress for your body type I have a video about in the video there are  different outfits for different body types. 

Wearing cheap looking Fabrics

• Cheap looking Fabrics are a short sign of looking cheap.  It's even worse whent the fabric is now expensive purchased at higher price and then it ends up looking cheap .
•  Another thing,when shopping from affordable Brands  stick with theFabrics like cotton silk and satin. It might be cheap price wise, but have an expensive Outlook .

If you know what I mean basically, I would just say stay for clear Fabrics or materials that can be done well on a budget.

Heavy makeup

Please avoid heavy makeup at all cost,no matter how strong the urge is.  Why you're not a clown, don't go heavy on the eyes and the lip at the same time, you end up

looking very cheap. Less is more in this

department so you don't end up looking

like we make up I always tell people to

tilt more towards the minimal area next

one for me is this one that helps me so

much why do people do that 

using rubber bands to tie your hair to pack your hair

• Hair Packers are the cheapest hair accessories you can get,why do you still have to opt for rubber band. First of all you're even spoiling your extension,  your natural hair and it is not flashing at . 
• I can be admiring someone's look ,right once you turn back and I see the rubber band to tie your hair, it just takes that admiration to what was she was thinking. 
• Hair bands are legit the cheapest hair accessories available Just try and invest in some . You can get a pack for less than two dollars in PrimeMarket, I think they sell it for like one pound for a pack of 20 or more. 

 Wearing rumpled clothes

 It's difficult to fit in ironing time when you are running multiple businesses. Invest in clothing that don't require ironing and for the ones that you can't even do without ironing. 

• If ironing is not your favorite right Outsource it or just plan yourself in such a way that you iron once a week and throughout that week .You don't have to bother about ironing. wherever wrong foot closing is

If you want to  look expensive in 2023 we don't look like what we are going through.Consider the following points  by:

1.  looking veryhvery clean 
2. to look very staffer 
3. Very luxurious crisp and well put together each and everything if youenjoyed .Don't forget to give it a thumbs up subscribe share leave your

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