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Ways for Promoting Literacy and Love for Reading in Kids.

 Ways for Promoting Literacy and Love for Reading in Kids.

Are you a parent and you don't know how to promote literacy and love for reading? Has your child ever developed the  problem of reading ? Don't worry. 

Certainly, promoting literacy and love for reading in kids is a wonderful way to set and prepare them for lifetime of learning and enjoyment. I have prepared various tips that can help your kid to develop love for literacy and reading

1.Start early.

Begin to read to your child as early as from infant,even if the kid doesn't understand the wording,but they can enjoy the sounds and rhythms and tone of your voice. You may wonder how possible is that,but keep on reading for him or her. Just have a positive mind for your kid even if she has not developed fully. By doing so you create love for reading.

2. Create a Reading Routine.

Ensure that you stick to your reading schedule. You should have a daily reading routine such as bedtime stories,this will broaden your baby's mind and makes reading a habit.

3. Be a role model in reading

Children often emulate or copy their parents behavior. You should try and read books, magazines, newspapers infront of your children. They will be motivated and become eager to know how to read on those journals.

Don't ever deny the kid the chance even to look at the pictures inside the books or Newspaper,because if you rebuke them , they will develop negative attitudes towards reading 

4. Read A loud.

Ensure that you read a loud to your kids,even after they start reading on their own . Also allow them to read  loud so that they can have the following benefits:

• Helps in building vocabulary.
• Improves comprehension and active listening.
• Reduces stress and makes them happy.
• It improves working memory.

5. Build a Home Library

Ensure  that your home has a variety of age appropriate reading books.The library should contain books like Sound and Read,My first Book to Read,My first Sound to Read,from pre-school up to University levels. You can also take your kids to community libraries or the National Libraries to read more books.

6. Join a Reading Program.

As a parent you should search and know the community that have reading programs and events for kids. For example the kid can join various clubs for reading in the society . Even some churches have the the programs for children participating in the competition of reading from the scriptures. They are told to open a certain chapter and a verse and the first one to get is being rewarded. This will create curiosity for children to read more.

7. Ask Questions

Give the child time to read a book and then ask the questions. Either you can ask them to narrate what they have read,characters or their favourite parts. Through asking questions makes them to be more keen and develop more concentration when reading a certain story. It also helps them to comprehend and develop critical thinking.

8. Let them choose.

Allow your kid to choose or select books that interest them. Even if it's not what you would  like to choose, their enthusiasm for the topic is more important. Do not ever.111 discourage them for the books they have chosen. Just encourage them to read and contemplate what is in the book. Respect their reading choices,even if they want to reread the same books ,just allow them and don't be harsh to them.

9. Limit Screen Time

Most of the kids nowadays are fond of looking at the screen so much.They can mean to watch their favourite movies of various series, either of cartoons and forget to read. You should set strict rules and boundaries when to watch the screen. Be encouraging the kid to read by setting reasonable limits on screen time,so that they have time for books.

10. Make it Fun.

You should employ funny voices and be humorous and comedic. If it's a story of a dog and a cat,just where and be like a dog or a cat and start reading for them. They will never forget about the stories and they will develop the interest of reading the books.

12. Celebrate Achievements. Whenever a baby makes a milestone in reading books,just appreciate them. Give them appraisal awards even by congratulating them or even promise to buy them their favourite toys or items,this will accelerate their reading habits. Positive reinforcement encourages reading . Always avoid small criticism even if they haven't achieved what you needed. By supporting them and encouraging them,gives them hope to work hard.

13. Support their Curiosity.

Most of the kids are curious and they keep on discovering and asking new things about certain areas like .Why am I a boy or a girl,who is God and who created me.You can read for them books and explain to them so that they can easily understand. Take time to look for answers in the books and they will develop and will like reading.

14. Visit Author Events.

If possible look for the authors of the books or attend author's events or books signing to show the real people behind the stories.

Conclusion

Promoting literacy and love for reading starts with you as a parent. Always remember to encourage your child to read by building a home library, supporting their curiosity,reading in their presence. 

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Bonding with Baby:10 Heartwarming Activities for New Parents .

Have you ever thought of becoming A new Parent and how you should bond with your Baby? Becoming a parent is a development process or stage filled with love ,joy and responsibility. One of the greatest beautiful journey is the opportunity to bond with your new baby. Bonding not only plays the role of togetherness and closeness ,but also strengthens the emotional and cognitive development.

Most of the New Parents have worries on how to create those heartwarming moments. I have prepared for you 10 Heartwarming activities that can help you strengthen the bond with your baby.

1. Skin-to-skin contact 

From the time your baby is born, you should practice skin to skin contact or kangaroo. Make sure everytime you hold your baby against you bare skin either on the chest which promotes physical closeness and warmth.It also helps in offering comfort and security.

2 .Bath time

Bath time can be fun and bonding experience. Gently wash your baby with soap,even allowing them to touch the soft cotton which  you are using to wash her. Sometimes the kid tend to wash herself,just let her wash even if it means rubbing herself with the cotton. Splash water and allow them to tap the water to produce the sound ,which helps them to enjoy.

3. Baby Massage

 After the baby has taken the bath,take the chance to gently massage your baby. While you're holding your baby close, gradually start stroking their legs and back. Then move on to other areas such as arms. Your baby should be calm,alert when giving massage.

Benefits of Baby Massage

• Promotes social, emotional and cognitive development.
• Helps a baby to relax and release tensions of daily stimuli.
• Decreases irritability and excessive crying.
• Reduces gas,colic and intestinal difficulties.

It's not best time for a massage ,when your baby turns their head away from you or stiffens their arms(according to Mayo Clinic).You should not do massage immediately after the child has eaten, because it will make the baby to vomit.

4. Eye Contact and Smiles

Baby are naturally drawn to faces that smile and eye contact. You can make various facial expressions,smile and gaze into your baby's eyes which makes the baby to learn non-verbal communication and develop relationship skills. For example when you smile and make eye contact, you show your child how to relate warmly with others.

Also you can try to imitate what your child is saying thus developing listening skills to the child.

5. Tummy Time

Tummy Time refers to placing baby on their stomach, while they are awake and someone is watching them. You can start a tummy time a day or two days after they are born. As your child gets older,you can have longer,more regular sessions throughout the day. You can start by:

1. Spreading the blanket or a mat on a clear area of the floor.
2. Place the a rolled up towel under baby's arms to help prop them up slightly.
3. Put a toy within baby's reach to help baby interact with the surrounding and learn to play.
4. Then sit infront of the baby to encourage interaction and bonding.

Benefits of tummy Time

     a)Strengthens baby's neck, shoulder and           arms for easier sit up,crawl and walk.    

      b)Prevents flat spots on back of the                   baby's  head.

       c) Helps in motor skills 

6. Baby Sign Language

Try to use simple baby sign language that are easily understood by your baby. You can use various signs to mean various activities. For example ,when the baby wants to breastfeed ,you can use your mouth by holding your both lips together and start mimicking

When feeling hungry  and she wants to eat you can you use both your fingers and hold them together as you continue rubbing them close to your mouth or you can make a yarn or make a C shape with hands as if you are holding the cup then move it  to your mouth.

When saying "Yes"you can use 👍,when saying "No " you can use your index ☝️ finger and shake it .

Baby Sign Language reduces frustrations and strengthens your understanding of each other.

7. Explore Nature Together

Taking your child around your backyard,either in the garden,flower gardens and tear some flowers 🌻 🌹 🌺 or walking around the forest,makes the child to enjoy the natural nature of creation. You can also try to lie down and watch the sky ,or even at night you can take him and watch the stars and moon. The cool and fresh air, sights and sounds of the birds,provides a stimulating experience for both of you.

8. Singing and lullabies

Singing your favourite baby songs to him/her makes your baby to enjoy the melody and sounds of your voice,and provide comfort and familiarity.It also helps in good brain development and makes the baby to a fall asleep easily.

9. Reading A loud

You can choose age appropriate story books and start reading aloud to your baby. Even if the baby doesn't understand the flow of the story,but the baby can hear the soothing sounds of your voice . Reading helps in the language development and bonding.

10. Baby wearing

Baby wearing is the practice of carrying a baby in a sling or baby carrier. Baby wearing promotes attachment and bonding.

It also makes parents to be more responsive to their baby's needs and mother's are more likely to breastfeed easily.

Conclusion 

Bonding with your new baby is an incredible and heartwarming journey. Taking bath time,baby Massage, singing lullabies, reading aloud creates beautiful moments. Each child has got her own uniqueness and the most important thing is to be present, patient and responsive to your babies cues. Cherish these early moments and they are the foundations for a strong,loving bond that will last a lifetime. 

Do you have any other tips on creating bonding with your baby? You can help me in the comment section and help me to share the content to New Parents in the city.

The Importance of a Good Night's Sleep for Kids: Tips and Tricks to Help Your Children Get the Rest They Need.

 The Importance of a Good Night's Sleep for Kids: Tips and Tricks to Help Your Children Get the Rest They Need.

Are you tired of fighting the bedtime battle with your little ones?Do they keep on tossing and resist going to bed and keep on turning all night long? I understand how difficult and frustrating it can be,but what if I tell you that a good night sleep is not just important for your sanity but also for your child's overall health and well being.

The following are tips for and tricks to help your child  get the rest they need:

1. Set an individualized bedtime

Most kids have patterns that  don't change much,no matter what you do.Those who have the routine of waking up earlier even if they sleep late,they will still wake up earlier. They stay awake for some hours until their bodies are ready.

2.Set a wake up time

Setting a wake up time based on how long your kid needs time to go to bed and sleep. Create awake up time routine as early as preschool years to prevent stress in future and be consistent with the schedule. 

Even if it's  a weekend or a holiday , don't try to change the schedule because the kid will adjust to the current situation and when school time reaches ,they will be horrible to handle.

3.Create a consistent bedtime routine 

Before dinner if the kid has come from school,they should have a light playtime,bath,do homework, bedtime story and then sleep. The routine should be accommodative and comforting.

4.Put off screens

Too much of screens affects the baby's emotional development including sleep disturbance, obesity, depression and anxiety. It promotes aggressive behaviours and hinder social and emotional competence.

Some of the parents have the tendency of giving their kids androids even at earlier age ,not knowing that they are destroying the emotional development of the kids. 

Also the kids can mean to watch their favourite cartoons or movies ,until even if they are pressed for short and long call ,they ignore and they soil for themselves.

You are supposed to switch off  or keep away your child from screens ,to create more time for sleeping.

5.Create a sleep-conducive environment

Make sure that the bedroom should be clean  meaning you should ensure that all distractive things that make your kid not to sleep well are well organized.

Ensure that beddings are soft,the lights should be switched off to help the kid to distinguish  between day and night. Also any kid of noise should be avoided to enable the kid to fall a sleep easily.

6.Keep it cool

The sleeping room should not be too cold or too hot. The temperature should be moderate and accommodating to the child. You should address the kid in a breathable cotton pyjamas and keep the room temperature at 65 to 70' F at night according to Whitney Roban,PhD, Clinical psychologist and sleep specialist.

7.Be on the look out for sleep disorders

Always try to find out what makes the kid to have sleep disorders. It could be nightmares that makes the child to be scared,maybe she could be snoring or disturbed by snores from others or breath through the mouth. Just consult your pediatrician Incase of any concerns .

8.Get exercise

Make sure your kid always plays a physical activity for 1 hour,because it makes the kid to relax her mind and accelerate the sleep. The kid falls a sleep faster inorder to recover the energy lost during the day. Alternatively, kids should avoid vigorously activities with 2 hours of bedtime.

Importance of good Night's sleep to kids

A good Night's sleep is paramount importance for children as it plays crucial role in overall development and well being.

It's a period which various physiological and psychological processes occur.

• It helps children replenish their energy level,promote optimal physical growth and development.
• Critical brain functions are enhanced, facilitating memory consolidation and learning retention while promoting concentration and effectiveness throughout the day.
• Furthermore,deep slumber aids emotional and regulation by mitigating stress levels in children and facilitating better control over their emotions.
• Promotes mood stability and reduces irritability or  issues that can arise due to inadequate sleep patterns among kids.

Conclusion 

In conclusion, a good night's sleep is crucial for the overall health and well-being of children. It not only helps them physically by aiding in their growth and development, but it also has a significant impact on their mental and emotional states. As parents, it is our responsibility to ensure that our children get enough quality sleep each night. By following the tips mentioned above and creating a consistent bedtime routine, we can help our kids reap the numerous benefits of a good night's rest. So let us prioritize our child's sleep and watch them thrive in all aspects of their lives.

How to make money as a stay at home mom

Being a stay at home without any job can be tiresome. It can also make you not to cater for your family basic needs. Sometimes it makes mom's who don't have a permanent job,to be isolated,being despised either by their husbands,their relatives,friends because they feel that they don't contribute anything to the family. Forgetting that parenting also is a great job.

If you don't have any job and you feel like you're pressed with difficulties,just have hope. I have best ways to make money while you are at home. Even most of the mom's see were working from 8/5 or 9/5 have decided to work from home because they have found the jobs to be done at their own pace,without any pressure from their bosses.

At home you can do many jobs,and even if you have small kids, it will give you easier time to take care of them. You will work at you own pleasure and manage your family easily.

The following are the ways you can make money while stay at home mom.

Blogging

Blogging is the the idea of writing content, photography,videos and publish it online in a website. It entails in writing in various niche on certain topics that would be on parenthood, lifestyle,education, entertainment,news,sports and other topics. 

As a stay home mom you can you opportunity of parenting and write on parenthood and you can write out your skills on parenting. Most of the parents especially the new parents they need or are seeking advise on how they are supposed to bring up their children. They needs your tips that would help them. 

You can also write on various topics that you have a passion in it,you monetize it and you start earning from your come home office.

Online tutor

You can offer online teaching classes to students. There are various platforms that are employing online tutors to teach various subject of their specialization. These platforms give students and they give take a certain percentage of commission and the rest remains to you. 

You can apply on Preply, Amazingtalker,italki, teacherOn, Apprentus, Chegg, TutorMe, Cambly and others . You teach online either by using zoom,Skype google meets,webinars and other available online Internet.

You can also teach a langauge to non native speakers. For example you teach English, Swahili,French, Chinese, Spanish, Mandarin and other foreign langauges.

Virtual Assistant

A virtual assistant is providing administrative services remotely. You work from a remote office especially from home. Virtual Assistant performs the following functions.

• Responds to emails and make phone calls 
• Arrangements of travel events and accommodation 
• Make a contact list
• Prepare customer spreadsheet and make online records.
• Does the market research.
• Create presentations.
• Organize managers' calendar. 

 The goodness of Virtual Assistant you work at your own flexible times. There's no pressure . You need to have some skills on bookkeeping,email listing,have a PC and stable internet. Moreso you should be committed to your work ,so that you finish the project and submit it earlier.

Data Entry Clerk

Data entry is the process of transferring of paperwork documents into computerized  or database. You must be familiar or have the skills in typing, knowledge on Microsoft word, spreadsheet excel inorder to complete your work. 

The following are the duties of a data entry clerk.

1. Transfer data from paper formats into computer files or database systems.
2. Typing in data provided directly from customers.
3. Creating spreadsheets with large numbers of figures .

You should make sure that you don't make any mistake when entering the data. If you make a slight mistake ,the whole process will be in a mess.

Make sure you meet the deadline and don't be lazy ,because you will loose more customers.

Social Media Manager

Social media managers are in charge of planning,creating, publishing content through social media channels like Facebook, Instagram, twitter and others.

They create marketing campaigns and build a bigger brand.

You should possess the following skills.

*Graphic design

*Analytics who studies metrics like reach(impressions,views) engagement (comments,likes,shares)

*Customer service

*Community management (replying to sms, engage with loyal customers especially engaged followers and turn them into brand advocates.

*Digital marketing and creativity

*Strategy and planning (copywriting, design, publishing schedule and timing,as well as running paid ads.

Social media doesn't require you to be in an office,you can work comfortably from your remote area.

 

Travel Agent

As a stay home mom you can work comfortably from you home.Travel agent is the most lucrative job ,because you can do it online. Sometimes it may require you to do a previst to the place,so that you will full information for your client .

The travel agent makes booking and payment using online computer systems.

Sell transportation, lodging and admission to entertainment activities to individual and groups planning trips.

Offer advice on destination

Plan trip itinerary and make travel arrangement for client.

Translator

Are  you a stay home mom and you know how to speak two languages or more?. Then here's the opportunity for you. You can translate from a different language to your native language. For example,from English to Spanish,French,Chinese, Germany, Mandarin, Swahili and others. 

You are being given a document either that it's written in a langauge then you translate it,or you can translate a speech.

You can register yourself in many platforms that employ translators. For example Fiverr, Upwork, Flex jobs, ZipRecruiter and other platforms.

Proofreader

As a proofreader you make sure that there's no spelling mistakes,the punctuation is done properly,the sentence are written without any errors. 

The clients sends you a document which is written and assigns you to proofread. You should ensure that you have the high proficiency in either English or whatever the language the client wants the document to be proofread.

Graphic designer

Graphic designer creates the visual concepts by use of computer systems or manually by hand,to transmit specific messages to social groups with specific objectives.

Your work is to market,make brands and advertise . You use the visual elements such as colour, topography and imagery.

Company brand identity (logos, typography, and color palettes)

The graphic designer does the following responsibilities.

• User interfaces on apps and websites.
• Books, magazines, newspapers, and other publications.
• Product packaging.
• Advertisements and commercials.
• Signage for stores, transportation, stadiums, and event spaces.
• Video games

 Conclusion 

You need to equip yourself with necessary skills,and make sure you have PC and stable internet. Always remember to present your work on time,and avoid unnecessarily mistakes that would drain away all your potential clients. 

As stay mom, you have all the time to work at your own pace ,with any pressure. Therefore it's you to maintain discipline,respect, always communicate early when you can't complete the project,so that the client can understand.

Top tips for new parents: 10 guides for new parents.

Have you ever thought of becoming a parent and having your own family. New parents sometimes they have fear and they don't know how parenting is. New parents they sought tips from various sources ,others which are good or others misleading. When starting a family and becoming a parent it needs patience and resilience. Marriage has ups and downs,so you must accept and move on. The following tips will help new parents in their life.

1. Trust yourself

As a new parent you need to trust your instinct. Trust that you should make a  responsible parent like others. You may find many advice from the parents who have managed,seek from the books or Internet , advice from friends ,relatives and other people. Just take what's good for you and toss the rest. You know your baby better than the other person,if you really need any advice just consult your doctor.

2. Ask help

As a new parent if you feel you need a help from others,just ask. Don't die with your problem. Asking help doesn't make you to be more less parenting.  Relatives,friends they can help you to babysit and you can take that  time to take a shower,sleep for a while or you have a work. Don't tend to pretend that you are a super mum or super dad. Asking help or allowing people to help you,it creates good relationship.

Don't be afraid on how they will take it. But have a positive mind.

3. Join parenting groups

As a new parent who is struggling in raising a child or children,try as much as possible to join parenting groups either in Facebook, LinkedIn Twitter and other social media networks. In those groups there are a lot of questions which are being asked and they are answered. 

Remember to take  good advise and leave those that are not helping.  Through those groups,you will learn alot what you never knew in parenting. In those groups you will learn on how to feed your baby,care for your baby.

4. Be open minded

As a new parent, don't just assume that you know everything about parenting. Be ready to seek advice,and put off the old theories and accept the new ones. Be flexible in your life and don't have a preconceived notions and ignore the new ideas.

5. Always communicate.

Don't be afraid to communicate with your baby. Even if the baby doesn't talk back or understand what you are talking,just speak to him/her. Communicating with a baby helps in development of communication skills. It may sound weird when someone finds you talking to your infant. But that one should not scare you . You can do non-verbal communication by waving the hands,smiling and see whether the child can do it back.

6. Don't compare

New parents always try to do comparison in children. Every child has got his/her unique way of development. Don't just look at someone's baby for example she has started walking at 9 months and yours has not moved even in one step or she can't make steps while holding objects. Every child has her own milestones.

Just be patient and as you keep on having more children you will understand the differences. Always read on child's development stages, that's when you will accept.

7. Babies always cry

Remember that babies always cry. As a new parent you should not take that one as a disease. Most of the infants moreso at 1-5 months they tend to cry ,due to colic or they have been just be born and they need womb warmth. Others may cry due to hunger,they want to sleep,others are sick, overtired,upset and you need to differentiate and understand how these babies cry and how their sounds means. Just make sure you care for your baby by using the right petroleum jelly that doesn't bring itching on the skin of the baby .

8. Get time to rest.

I know it's difficult to sleep when you are supposed to have some other activities. Sometimes other children won't allow you to sleep. As a new parent you are advised to sleep when the baby is also a sleep and make sure that there's no disturbance. You can't sleep when the baby is a wake, because he needs your attention.

Sleeping makes you to relax,refresh your mind,it makes you to regain your energy and also makes you to forget about the difficult time you have been having with the baby.

9. Be patient.

Parenting needs patience. You shouldn't expect the baby to grow instantly. There should be stages when parenting. Sometimes babies tend to be terrible and annoying, because of crying,they don't want to be left alone,to eat or sleep,you need to practice patience and persistent.

Impatient of new parents leads to poor upbringing. You can't expect a baby to act like a grown up,the baby needs his/her time to develop fully. Don't have so much expectations from your baby that are impossible.

10. Love yourself

Having a new baby and being a new parent, doesn't make you not to make yourself tidy. Yeah I know parenting a little baby plus the house chores if you don't have a nanny or anybody who can help, sometimes you may forget even to take a bath, especially if you have some other children.

The children may tend to cause chaos,they make the room untidy , disarrange the things,break some items and you find you are caught up when cleaning. Just use five minutes and take a bath. 

Sometimes your body posture may change and you become more fatty, because you have baby fats that are yet to be reduced. Your skin may start peeling off, just look at the mirror and speak good things about you. You  may see your fellow friends with good shape, don't disregard yourself or avoid to hang out with them. 

Just put yourself together and believe that you will regain your shape. Even after some months you may start slowly going for yoga,or gyms to return back your shape.

Conclusion 

Parenting it needs patience, loving yourself,asking help when need be, asking questions where you don't know about certain things, expecting stress because the baby may not be sleeping or may be sick.

Parenting as new parent can be tiresome but at the end ,you become a victor when  the baby who used to be making or giving you sleepless night has become a grown up and can do his/her own things.

If you have other tips don't forget to share them in the comments section.

25 pieces of Advice you must give to your male child

1.He should act as a man. Let him to differentiate himself and girl child. He should know his responsibility as a man of the house.

2.He should work for his own properties. Don't ever tell him that what you have belongs to him,instead show him the ways of generating income inorder to have assets.

3.He should not have pride. Let him understand that he is not more superior or a champion over the female child. Even the female will be the most superior persons if he doesn't work hard.

4. He should protect and guard the home. Give him some hints on how he should protect his family in terms of security or against raiding. When he will become a man of the house he should always defend the family thus protecting the community.

5.He should provide. As a man his responsibility will be providing for the family in terms of basic needs that are needed. He should not always depend on the woman he has married. By doing that he will have the respect from the woman.

6. He should love and be faithful. The woman that he will marry,he is supposed to love her,respect her, cherish her and not take her for granted. Tell him to love his siblings so that he can develop the heart of loving.

7. Teach him how to save. He should learn how to save from earlier ages. If you give him pocket money ,he should not squander all the money,but he will keep some money to buy for himself even a pair of shoes.

8.Teach him not to live a life of borrowers. He should be careful and cautious not to borrow money to buy luxury things to appease the ladies. After spending the borrowed money ,he will be unable to return or pay back.

9.He should be careful with ladies or woman. He should not have an earlier man woman intimacy relationship,because it will make him go astray. Woman sometimes,take an opportunity of young men and they waste their life and when his time reaches for marrying,he ends up dealing with sugar mummy.

10. He should make sure not to offend the woman that love him. Women are like rose flowers that should be watered everyday.

11. He should always fight for his manhood. Never should he allow ladies to mock her. But instead come out and protect his manhood. He should not be crying like female child.

12.Give him education. He should or must go to school and work hard,so that he can prosper in life. He should restrain from drug trafficking, smoking, robbery with violence. Education is the key for life.

13. He should know that being educated is not getting a good job,rather he should be a job creator and not a job seeker.

14.He should be able to learn some skills and knowledge. He ought to have experience skills in certain fields that can accommodate him.Let him mingle with good people or friends. He should choose his friends wisely. Not all friends are good some will be misleading.

15. Tell him the idea of choosing friends, moreso who are rich. The rich guys no longer associate with the poor. So he should carefully know the best friends to hang up with.

16. He should not be fast to get riches. He should avoid unnecessary groups that would register him in cult activities inorder to get wealth.

17. Let him hang out with people whose their source of wealth are known. He should know Children of nowdays they want to get rich without investment.

18.He should avoid too much love on football. He shouldn't dedicate all his life,time and energy to watching games all day long without focussing on his life development.

19. A man should have two things in life. The wisdom and knowledge. Without wisdom you will not make it life.

20. Inform him that his handsomeness can attract women to him. But he should know that it's love and his hard work that could keep them together.

21. He should avoid night clubs  or night parties ,because they are not good. They make young people to indulge in bad behaviours.

22. He should know that getting  a rich woman doesn't mean that she will provide for him. Women who are rich ,and you don't provide for them,are the worst ghost in the world. 

23. He should choose women who are respectful. Women who respect their parents ,elders and even their siblings.

24. He should know that wiser man don't fight to kill their fellow men inorder to gain prosperity either in power or life ,but they should fight to protect what's is good for them and other people.

25. Lastly, he should know that what he does in life ,to other people have consequences. He should know that karma is real.

Conclusion

Let your son know that inorder to acquire and preserve his manhood,he should work extra hard and avoid all unnecessary activities that would make his life short.

If you were a parent,what  advise would you have given your son?

If you know any other tips please don't forget to comment and share if you find this post useful.

15 Tips Encouraging good behaviours among teenagers.

Teenagers are also known as teens or adolescent. They are aged between 13 and 19 years. They experience different changes at puberty. They develop,socially physically, emotionally.

At this stage the teens develop differently and they experience changes that sometimes make them to develop good and bad behaviour. This is the stage where they learn and discover new things evolving around the world. Others due to peer pressure,they become rude,start watching pornographic videos,early pregnancies,early marriages,drug addiction and other vices in the society. 

But being a teen doesn't mean that the child cannot change . Instilling good behaviours needs good communication and good relationship.

The following are 15 Tips on how to Encourage good behaviours on teenagers.

1.Give a positive attention to your teens.

Parents are encouraged to give or allow positive attention and spend more time with their teenagers. Take time to listen to what they are saying and their body language. Spending time with them , they can develop braveness and you can easily learn a lot especially in terms of behavior change. 

Also you would have easier time to talk to them, encouraging them to positively perceive how good behaviours helps persons to develop morally upright.

2.Talk to your teenagers positively.

As a parent it's your duty and responsibility to talk to your teens in a way that would yield good results. You shouldn't talk to them, shouting and yelling at them. Instead sit down together ,have a talk one on one and if there's a problem , definitely the teen will open up and tell you the truth. Shouting at high voice makes them to develop fear and bad attitude towards you.

3.Be a role model

Each parent should develop or lead as an example in terms of behavior. Make sure your footsteps are well mannered and good to be followed. You should not talk against bad behaviours like drunkardness,smoking and yet you come home very drunkard staggering. Or the kids knows that you have side chics and you tell them to stop fornication. Guard your steps and make sure that are good for your teens. Encourage them to go to church ,attend church camps and participate in community charity work 

4.Set clear rules and boundaries.

A parent should always set clear rules and boundaries that should be adhered to. Let the teenagers know that you mean what you say. If it's the time they should be at home and should not exceed 6pm . Beyond that let them know that there will be consequences if they violate the rules.

Let them give clear explanation that can excempt them from being punished. Am sure if they know how you acknowledge those rules they will always be on the right truck.

5.Taking you child seriously.

You should treat your teen as being very important and deserves respect. Ensure you care about your child ,how his/her development , physically, socially or mentally. Admit the changes in her body and treat them normally.

6.Respect your teenager's privacy and needs

Parents are asked to respect the teens privacy especially at their puberty stage. They tend to shy off because new changes have emerged in them.

When visiting their rooms especially bedrooms you should knock and ask politely "may I come in?" If they respond yes then proceed in ,but if they keep quiet ,they no longer need you,maybe they are dressing up and they don't want you to see them.

7.Give room for creativity in the house.

Teens tend to be creative in all areas. But ensure those creativity are under your supervision and directions. Let them develop their talents either in cooking , singing,dancing,and others. You can even allow to design the room, connect the the audio or video in a creative way.

8.Give them responsibilities

It is good to allow teens to have their own responsibilities. For example let them know how to dress well,the type of clothes to wear that are decent. You can assign them the responsibility of taking care of their young siblings and instruct them to be watchful. This taking care of young ones will instil good behaviour of caring for others.

9.Give praises or rewards

Always give praises whenever the teen has done excellent work especially in class,at home or anywhere. Make them to feel appreciated and loved,and these will make them to work harder and develop good morals. Even if they haven't performed well, don't rebuke them ,instead you should praise and encourage them to work hard and promise to reward them next round of they improve. As they grow they will be knowing to be grateful and appreciate other people the way they are.

Remember to praise positively when they change to good behaviour. Teenagers at this stage they develop weird behaviours that are misleading and whenever they abstain from those bad behaviours,just congratulate them.

10.Share your inner feelings

Let them know your feelings over certain behaviours. Talk to them that you don't feel good for example when they are being involved in early relationship or make love.

Tell them you don't feel good when they are spending most of their times in the screen especially phones watching movies. By talking to them they will definitely know that they will always work hard and avoid any misunderstanding between them and their parents.

11.Have problem solving skills

You should tackle the problem positively. You should make sure that the way you solve problems ,should be of good advantage. Don't just jump into conclusions without focussing on its consequences. Don't leave your teens in a dilemma not giving a clear solution. Give your teens time to express themselves and even ask them to give resolutions.

If you allow them sometimes to be mediator if a problem arise then they will develop good behaviours.

12.Adhere and keep promises

If you had promised your teens on certain issues,either be buying them presents, taking them for an outing or taking them to good school if the work hard,just fulfil those promises . If you don't honour those promises the teens will be discouraged and develop bad attitude towards you and even not working hard in their studies, because they know there's no reward.

13.Nurture positive relationships

You should ensure you have good relationship with the teens . You can try to spend time with teens by having funny times of laughing or making jokes which helps to ease tension and blame games among teens. It helps parents in preparation to tackle a difficult conversation and thus easement of shouting and keeping of secrets.

14.Encourage sense of belonging. 

Most of the family members have ceremonies and traditional ways of doing things. Allow your teens to celebrate their birthdays with other teens but under your supervision. Never should you allow them to drink alcohol,watch movies because they will finish in a bad situation. 

Most of the teens have the rite of passage ,allow them to attend those rituals and learn in how to live like adulthood. Ladies are taught by their grandmother and boys grandfather.

15. Plan a head of difficult conversations.

When planning to have a talk on a topic which is hard to handle,always ensure to plan and measure on how to talk to your teens. Find time to inform and look for a better place and time convenient to talk. 

You may use verbal or a note to keep them alert on the topics you are going to discuss.

Planning a head makes you to engage yourself and solve the problem easily.

Conclusion

Encouraging or instilling good behaviours among teens it needs paying attention,having skills of solving the problems,being a parent of good deeds that can be emulated by teenagers that would help them .

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Importance of teamwork as a family

 

A family is an essential institution that contains a large group of people. It can either be nuclear or extended. Nuclear family consist of a father, mother and children. Extended family consist of nuclear family plus the grand parents,great grandparents,aunts and great aunties,uncles and great uncles that are living in the same household.

Being in a family moreso extended it needs a lot of patience in working together as a team. You may find some members differ in certain ideologies and perceptions,thus leading to poor coordination. Some of the family members may have certain status that make them not to or willing to work as a team. For example the wealthier and the poorer can't eat from the same pot ,because their status bar them from mingling with each other. The rich see they are superior and they can't sit with the same table with less fortunate. Through these actions it tears the family members.

Families that work together as a team ,they reap more love, resilience, humility, kindness, responsibility, togetherness and other positive attitudes towards each other.

How to acquire teamwork in a family

Family members can have the teamwork through the following:

Share house chores. Each members should be assigned house chores that would make each and everyone to work hard so as to finish earlier. If the members work together through sharing the chores either in cooking, cleaning the house, making beds and arranging clothes,it brings togetherness.

Playing together. Family members can schedule a day or a time either on the weekends to play. Children needs to explore various activities inorder to develop psychomotor skills. Parents can develop or organise activities like,playing soccer,rope skipping, skirting,racing, Chess, swimming and other activities that children can or would be able to participate. If possible parents should ensure that all activities that are easily affordable can be within the compound or you can take the kids to kids sports club.

Ceremonies. Most of the family members have family functions or gatherings that bring them together. These ceremonies would be wedding,initiation or rite of passage , birthdays ,and others also gather together during graduation.

If the members of the family gather together,they can enhance teamwork. But most of the families due to modernity,poor economy, jealous, greediness and other vices have made the family to break and they no longer come to celebrate together.

Performing these ceremonies helps the family to have or develop teamwork and embrace it.

Volunteer. As a family you can volunteer and provide charitable work in the community. You can decide to provide basic needs like food ,clothes and even built houses for the need in the society. Each family member can contribute in terms of money,food and other items and you schedule on how you can visit the needy in the society. 

You may find some families are having jiggers and you decide to spray the house or treat them through washing their beddings, smearing the houses and taking them to hospital if need be.

Through volunteering,it makes most of the family members to develop a good and helping hand.

Importance of teamwork in the family

1. It helps to create strong family bondage and togetherness. 
2. It helps or makes family members to mentally develop and acquire good decision making.
3. It creates awareness of helping and caring for others.
4. It helps persons to develop sense of belonging .

Sometimes teamwork in the family cannot be achieved and it need tolerance so that you can accommodate all sorts of people. The following are disadvantages of team work in the family

Disadvantages of teamwork

• It leads to wastage of time especially when their a misunderstanding between individuals.
• You cannot make your own decisions because it's a teamwork.
• It leads to conflicts if some members feel less fortunate in the family or when works less than others

Conclusion

Creating teamwork in the family it needs patience and tolerance. Teamwork helps to solve problems easily and helps one to develop communication skills. It can also lead to poor decision making , conflicts if not well managed.

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8 Ways on how to be a responsible parent

Have ever thought of how a responsible or how you will be a responsible parent to your family or for your kids?. 

Have you ever seen some parents who seems not to care about the welfare of their family? Parents who don't mind,they are ever busy with work,drunkard,cheaters,haters name them. They seem to forget their responsibilities.

Becoming a parent is a life-altering experience that comes with immense joy, but also great responsibility. Parenting is a lifelong journey that  needs dedication, self-reflection, and continuous learning. To be a responsible parent means to prioritize your child's well-being and development, while fostering a nurturing environment that promotes their growth, happiness, and independence. .

Probably most of the parents they are trying and some are giving full responsibilities to their families. They struggle day and night,to make sure that their children or family members have all what it takes. 

When we were growing we used to see our parents made sure we could eat,sleep well,we go to school,dress well and we enjoyed all along seeing our parents to take of us. Sometimes I remember my parents if they made a mistake of buying a shoe,a cloth,a bag or anything new and forgets or assumes that others have,that house would be more fire, because we could ask why they didn't buy for all of us. This gave the parents pressure to buy for others. We could not understand what they were going through either financially, psychologically, mentally but we demanded everything from them.It's now that I have come to understand what my parents went through. 

The following are the ways a parent can be responsible in the family.

1. Be loving .

Each parent is supposed to have love paternal love or maternal love(storge love) towards children. This kind of love is natural because there's no force that applies. The parents ought to express their love despite the situations (in terms of behaviours of their child). Children may develop unwanted behaviour but parents would not disown them but instead they would give advise and correct them in a patently way without any partiality.

If you show love to your children they will always grow to know to love others. Some parents also they love too much their kids that even if they make a mistake,they don't even correct or punish them. They instead try to be lenient and thus children no longer respect them. 

The husband and wife also need to show affection love. They should try to cherish each by making sure that the love they had from the past should exist. I know when children starts to arrive or when they are born,the parents start to deviate their love towards them and forget to show the partner love.  They give full attention to children,for example a nursing mother sometimes finds no time to fulfill all the obligations to her husband because her mind and time is all about how to take care of the child. When it comes to this situation, I think the husband should try to understand and instead chip in to help her not to develop postpartum depression. I think if you help her then she will be a happy wife and there will be a happy family.

How does love affect the family?

• It helps members to  have the spirit of togetherness.
• It makes members to develop self esteem
• Love makes members to know how to treat others equally.
• Family love makes members to solve family conflicts easily without any partiality.
• Through love children develop secure attachment from their parents.
• Love makes family members to develop good communication skills.

2.Time manager

A good time manager controls everything that is well planned. A parent should always ensure that he/she should try to do things on time. If it is time to eat, try to prepare the meals earlier so that the kids can sleep early and wake up fresh in the morning. If you are taking kids to school , remember to keep time so that they will catch up with others in class. 

For teens make sure that you set clear rules on what time they should be at home. If you allow the teenagers not to observe the stipulated time you have set,am sure they will do unnecessary and develop unwanted behaviours that will lead to early pregnancies and drug abuse.

Parents who are good time keepers ,they are always productive and value things that matters alot.

3.Set clear rules and boundaries.

A responsible parent should set clear rules and boundaries that should be adhered to. The kids if they know that you have clear rules,am sure they will always be obedient,good time keepers, resilient and even hardworking. 

A family where parents don't set clear rules and boundaries,the family breaks. Children no longer respect the elders,their parents and even their siblings. If a child knows that if he/goes against the rules,will be punished or suffer consequences,thus creating good rapport.

Establishing clear and consistent boundaries is essential in raising a responsible child. Boundaries provide a framework for behavior and teach children about responsibility and accountability. Clearly communicate your expectations and consequences, ensuring they are fair and age-appropriate. By setting boundaries, you help your child develop self-discipline and make informed decisions.

4.Effective Communication

Good parenthood should always have clear, strong and effective communication to the members of the family. A parent that who usually communicates whenever there's a problem in the house,makes the problem to be less burdened. If a child has done any mistake,just sit together with him/her , communicate effectively in a polite way and if possible apply punishment and I am sure if you use the rightful communication the child will see his/her mistake and she will change.

You should not shout at the top of your voice,calling all mannerless or abusive words that make your children to despair in life. Whatever comes from your mouth should give great hope in life.

You should encourage open dialogue by actively listening to your child without judgment or interruption.  If you create opportunities for meaningful conversation,it makes  children to feel comfortable sharing their thoughts, concerns, and dreams. By fostering open communication, you build a strong foundation of trust and understanding.

Your words from your mouth should not be abusive,provoking, discouraging instead they should have a positive impact to your children. Try as much as possible to use words that are engaging and building strong relationship. The power of the tongue is powerful.

Effective communication creates strong parent-child relationship.

How to develop effective communication

• Be clear and concise. You should try to have clarity and short when  communicating. Set your  rules clear that are easily understood. You should not be complicated even your kids can't understand you.
• Guard your tone. Always remember to keep your tone low,and it should be friendly. Don't yell with voice that even scare your kids. A low tone that's welcoming make the kids to open up and even tell you what they are going through. But if you reprimand and rebuke them they will develop fear and even be discouraged.
• Be mindful about nonverbal communication. Your facial expressions, gestures,tone should not show arrogance. You should always smile, don't throws hands reckless or your tone shouldn't be too high.
• Practice listening skills. You must possess listening skills whenever you have the conversation with your family members. Give your kids time to talk and express themselves. Never should you shut them whenever they are trying to tell you something. Maybe they would be having a problem or a secret they want to tell you . When they call you don't be futile ,but  sit down with them and give them a listening hear until they finish their statements and then you react on them one by one.

5.A role model

A good parent should show good morals and lead by example. In whatever you do,you say or speak should be positive. There are parents who take alcohol, smoke ,abuse using obscene language and they expect their children to grow well mannered. They don't care about how that affects them physically, mentally, socially or psychologically. 

A good parenthood should not discourage but give life and educate the family members. They should instill good behaviours and morals to kids. You should show them how to be appreciative,forgiving, loving,caring and even hardworking. They should learn all these characteristics from you through your deeds.

6.Flexible and ready to change. 

Parents are supposed to be flexible and ready to change. Even if you have set clear and strict rules, sometimes they make children to be more rude. Look for example where the child is almost beaten or punished everyday because he/she repeats the same mistakes. The discipline because a normal routine and the child is used to it. He sees or knows that even I change or don't change the trend is the same. 

When it reaches a situation where the kids doesn't change the behavior,just try to adjust your way of discipline. Create or loosen your way of punishing,you can either try to look for counsellors or try to talk to them nicely and am sure they will definitely change.

7.Good leadership. 

You should possess or be a leader in your home. Leadership doesn't only apply in workplace,but also everywhere. In your house  you should offer help to your kids in terms of showing them how to do certain things in the house. Help children to know how to cook, to wash clothes, gardening and others. If you do this they will grow to know and become responsible.

Secondly, you should be supportive and encouraging. A responsible parent should show support in whatever members of the family do. Keep on encouraging them and giving morale to them. You should not discourage your kid if he/she doesn't achieve certain goals in life. Talk to them and tell them they can,and they can do all things through Christ who strengthens them.

Thirdly, always give praises to your kids. If a children has done well in class,she has known to do certain activities like preparing meals, wearing clothes,even when they make steps when trying to walk,crawling just praise them. If you keep on appreciating them ,they will know that they are doing right things and they will keep pressing on.

Fourthly, you should show emphaty and give credits where it deserves.  Don't ever show sympathy to your children instead you should be in their shoes and encourage them. Because if you show sympathy they will no longer be able to defend or overcome challenges. Give credits in terms of buying them presents,and this will make them work harder.

Fifth, you should have good communication skills. A responsible parent should communicate effectively and in away that doesn't show condemination,hunger,brutality or any sign of hatred. Talk nicely to your kids ,use appropriate time, don't shout at them. On the other hand, you should not be that lenient to your children. Be a good commander.

8.Problem solver. 

Problems are part and parcel of life. You can't escape any problem unless you are a rock. Even rocks they do crack sometimes or they are being destroyed by human activities. When it comes to problem we should always be ready to make good decisions that should eliminate that trouble in our family.  We should not be quick to react to the problem ,but we should apply wisdom and knowledge when solving problems. A good parent should always be ready to face the problems and should have good problematic skills. 

What to consider before solving the problem.

Identify the problem.

You should always try to identify what type of problem you need to solve. If the children have done a mistake, you should first listen to both sides of the coin ,and never should you rely on one side. 

Configure what caused the problem?

How and when did it happen?

What could be the root cause?

If you apply to these questions then you should get a clear solution.

Identify the root cause

If you had identified the problem, definitely you should know the root cause. Look keenly what made the kids to face the problem.

How did it happen ,at what time?

The cause would be ,if they are having malaria in the house ,you should ensure that they sleep inside the mosquito net and spray your house and compound. Probably you have known the root cause. 

If it's in school they aren't performing well, try to get into the bottom of it,either asking first the kids,then call the teacher ,if they don't change ,try to make a visit to school and talk to the teacher plus the child and the teacher will clarify to you.

Find the possible solution

Although you have a solution, you should choose a better solution from the multiple solutions. Sometimes you may apply many solutions if the problem persist. Even when a teacher is teaching a new concept and finds that learners are not understanding it easily, he/she has to apply different teaching approach for them to understand. 

As a responsible parent you should try to use various approach in order to give room to solve the problem. 

Plan and implement your solution. 

You should always try to take your time and have a long lasting solution. Make sure you apply your knowledge carefully and make sure you adhere to it. Don't use a solution that will not become a bill in your house.

You can implement the solution of the problem through the following:

*Guidance and counselling

*Mediation. Use of religious leaders or elders in the community to solve the problem.

*Force. That should involve peace keeping mission in the house. A parent should not apply too much force that would lead to disagreement.

Measure the results

Remember to make up follow-up activities ,whether the solutions you applied they gave the good results. Keep on monitoring if it's the behavior of a child whether he/she has changed drastically or partially,then from that you should know what to change. 

If you keep on checking or weighing the solutions , definitely you will know how your responsibility has worked.

The solution should be the one that provides a long-term permanent solution to the problem.

Conclusion

Be a responsible parent that has good communication skills,time manager,a parent that knows how to solve problems,a parent that loves his/her children equally and provides all basic needs. 

Being responsible yields good parent-children relationship, children-children relationship and the family will grow together as one

6 Factors promoting good relationship in the family

 

Most of the  families are living far and even meeting each other is a problem.  Due to modernity and economic problems, everyone is on his /her toes , moving up and down to see what the family will eat. 

Most of the families nowdays are not in good relationship to each other. They are not staying together as our great great grandparents did. The strong bondage that existed has become extinct and family gatherings are no longer conducted. It has become the world of various countries in it,that each country is struggling to regain her economy. This applies tho our homes today ,that everyone is in his/her toes or struggling to gain independence from the colonists.

Most of the family members are ever busy and due to poor economy, it has made them not to bother other families. People have migrated or rather have thrown away the responsibility of taking care 9f their fellow family members. They no longer communicate ,visit, perform ceremonies thus leading to breakage of family relation. 

You can refer to 8 Factors affecting family relation.

The following are the factors that can create,promote bondage or good family relation

1.Communication

Whenever, when there's good communication in every situation , that's the problem solver in any condition. Think of a situation where  there's no communication on the people who are living in the same house,in the same bedroom,the same bed or same apartment. What would be the consequences?. I think it would be a horrible place that one would not wish to stay or to live in.

Whenever people aren't living together,they should develop the heart of calling or communicating each other. Members of the family who aren't staying together,living much far,or others who are working or studying abroad,they should at least spare time to say hi to their fellow family members. 

Take a case whereby the father or the mother isn't staying together with the children almost 2 years,what would the children think of their parents? The children will eventually loose the direct child -parent love , because they no longer communicate or trust him /her as their parent.

A responsible parent should always try to communicate to the family no matter how you are committed. Try even to video call,zoom,Skype so that children can know you by face and they will feel comfortable when talking .

In extended family ,the members will also try to call each other to know the well being of others,how they wake in the morning,how their day ended,their health and other social factors affecting them. Most of the family members have neglected others because they prefer to be concerned about their intermediate members. If for example you call a sick person and you give him just hope that she/he will get well soon ,only those words can create good relationship and the person can always be appreciative.

Don't wait until something bad happens, that's when you remember that you had a relative. Just call in good and bad times to create strong bondage.

What type of communication to use?

You can use the calls through the phones,video calls on WhatsApp, Facebook, Skype,zoom and other gadgets.

How and when will you communicate?

You should always try to calendar yourself and communicate with your members,even if after one day,two days or every week if you are working or living abroad.

2 .Visitation.

Visitation is very important among family members. Most of the family members due to poor economy, family conflicts, despising each other,and other factors,it has cut short the visitation that our forefathers had. 

You find some of the family members ,they don't know each other since childhood. They can even pass by without noticing or recognizing one another. Most of the family members have divide and rule plus the cold war among themselves. They don't even allow their children to play with other children from the other family. Because the parents had a disagreement or a fight, they recommend their children not to go near or in any case they don't school together,because they believe in witchcraft.

The visitation which was long ago ,it has elapsed. I remember when I was young we could visit our cousins during the long holidays. We could enjoy playing together, eating together, sleeping ,going to church together and we could even tell others how best our village or school is. But nowdays, it's along story. 

Most of the paying a visit has become "hot Air".Where things are no longer working and become precipitated. Some families had the schedule of visiting each other monthly.

When it comes to visiting, the family members can know each other and can develop strong relationship. 

The following are importance of visitation.

• It provides an opportunity to stay in touch with other family members
• It help members to express their emotions.
• It helps people to discover the failures and weakness of others and try to advise them.
• It fosters family -family good relationships.
• It provides an opportunity to refresh and enjoy together as family members.

How often do you visit each other?

It may be monthly,annually or the family members can decide.

Can visitation bring any change among the family members?

Yes, because through visitation members can know each other and they can develop a strong family relationship.

3. Gathering in ceremony

When members of the family meet together, celebrate and hang out ,it really creates good family relationship. Most of the families gather together in a manner that they intend to know each other. When I was young ,I saw in our family we used to gather together either in December and we will slaughter a goat and we would share and enjoy together. All the family members from my mother's side would come even if they lived in urban areas. They would make sure that they attend the ceremony and nobody compromised.

Nowdays there are no more gatherings,because of the modernity. Some people are ever busy either in terms of jobs, schooling,staying far away from other family members (abroad) which makes the family members not to meet.

Some family members have opted not to gather or visit each during the long holidays like December to visit even their grandparents, cousins,aunties and uncles. I think if we live like in the old days the family gatherings will be more valuable to the family members.

Despite of the economy ,the education,living in towns or abroad or any conflicts among the family members, gatherings shouldn't be exceptional. Family members will sit down together and they will discuss various issues that would and develop the firm relationship

4 . Having chamas,self help group

Members in the family are supposed to have self-help groups, "chamas" that would enhance the family relationship. For example if they do merry go round and this can be done through online, physical and members can organise to visit each other in their homes.

The self help groups have always maintained the good family relationship. The members contribute the money and they decide on what to do with the money and this can make a person von toes to confirm from others ,thus good relation.

5 .Team work

Members who have good team for example when bereavement comes or in other functions maybe in times of sicknesses and sorrow it creates good family relationship.

Participating in providing moral support during sorrow, makes somebody to feel comforted. Or if one of the family member has a ceremony like a wedding, paying of dowry,lacks school fees or any other problem,members are supposed to chip in and stretch their helping hand.

6. Appreciation

Members in the family should try to appreciate each other . Whenever a person does good either in helping , academics,talents and any other good performance. If we appreciate each other moreso kids it will make them to be active and try to work hard thus promoting positive impacts in life.

Through all these we find the importance of good family relationship.

• It helps the family to resolve family conflicts easily.
• It helps people to express their feelings,emotions easily.
• It creates team work,good communication and appreciation.
• It makes persons to develop positive attitudes towards each other.

In conclusion , for good relationship can be of great importance if only members can have good team work , communication, gatherings and ceremonies that would bring people together.

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8 Factors affecting good relations in the family.

Most of the families have lost the direction and diverted into a lot of issues that have created a bigger gap in the family. 

Most of the family members have sorted to various activities in terms of providing for the family. They don't even seem to care about the fellow members in the house. They have switched their roles to other people instead of themselves doing their responsibility. 

In our modern society , it has become like struggle for the fittest in the house. Meaning that , each and every should mind his or her own business not of others. Many parents have been taken by various factors even they don't even know that they have children to look after. They have numerous reasons not to be at home at the right time and have handed the responsibility to nannies.

The following are various factors that that hindered bondage in the family.

1. Communication

Nowdays there are no one on one communication. Before then our great grandparents had a good way of talking to each other. Let's say a problem has risen among the couples, instead of sitting together and talk about the problem and it's solution,they cut off communication. You find others they don't even talk to each other when a problem comes. Some even don't eat because he/ she wronged you. Instead of sleeping in the same bed room you sort to sleep on the couch or in a different bedroom, to avoid seeing beach other. 

A good family is the that sits together and talk friendly to one another. Causing tantrums and commotion in the house doesn't make you a hero, it makes you to create more problems in the house.  If it's the child who has done wrong, discipline him/her politely ,try to explain why or how it's bad to do that mistake and it's consequences. Definitely a child will understand and change his behaviors. 

Don't be rush to rebuke the kid,just try to to talk friendly to him/her and I think this one will solve everything. Children needs someone who counsels them and who embraces or instills good attitude to them .

On the side of the parents, fighting or quarrelling the whole night, refusing to eat or not providing for the family isn't a solution just sit down and talk. Or you can have a day out or night out ,you go there and discuss the issue and solve the problem. I think  communication is all the master solver for all problems.

2. The screen

When it comes to screen,there are alot of things to talk about. Due to modernity many family members have sorted to engage themselves on the screens. 

Mobile phones. This includes iPad ,tablets and other gadgets. Imagine walking in in a family and you find the mother is on the phone, the father is on the laptop and children are watching cartoons and nobody seems to care each other. You will even find yourself talking to yourself.  You try to engage them in a talk ,but none seems to bother. 

The children will be  hungry because the mum will be watching tiktok, Instagrams, Facebook Whatsapp chatting with somebody until she forgets to prepare meals for the family. The child will be having a good message to pass to the parent , but because the mother is preparing some live videos on Facebook, tiktok linked , Whatsapp status she doesn't care about the children. You would find the child has soiled her clothes and she even starts to smear it on the floor and the mother even has not noticed of not aware what's happening in the house.

The kids had been given homework and they are supposed to seek help from the parents .When the children approaches the father, he sends them back  not showing any fatherly love to the kid. Because he is busy chatting and looking on status on how young ladies are shaking their boobs and buttocks,and talking to side chics,his mind is altered and doesn't reason beyond that.

The teens have also been mislead by the social media.  They no longer do or help their parents in the house. They are always on the internet downloading love songs, chatting with their boy friends and girlfriends, making videos on tiktok, Instagrams, Whatsapp status others if not carefully monitored would be watching pornographic.  If a parent needed something and tries to call one of the teens , he would be deceiving herself , because there will be no response from them. 

The children when it comes to watching cartoons, it's like their meal. Even you you try to tell them to eat first ,they will not until you switch off the TV and you be on their neck so that they can take their meals. You find them in school talking of a certain program and other children are busy commenting, so this gives them the psyche to watch on the programs on the TV. They even forget to do their homework, helping their parents and they seems not to care at all.

Unless we cut of spending much time on screen, then our families are doomed and we can't have good -children relationship in our homes.

 3. Time

Most of the parents don't have time for their families. You find a parent goes for work from 4am and returns home at 10pm when everyone in the house is a sleep. She or he doesn't know how the children slept, what they ate,how they did their assignment and about their health. The children see him/ her only on weekends probably when they go to church or when the parent is having the offs.

All the responsibility have be delighted to the nannies. Most of this nannies they don't have the knowledge on parenting and they can teach the children,all kinds of behaviours that are vice in the society. Imagine a mother who is breastfeeding comes home at 10pm and finds the kid is a sleep and the kid doesn't have enough time to breastfeed.

4.Work

Work has killed the togetherness in the family. Most of the parents have put more energy and time on work forgetting their counterparts children. They spend whole day working and he/she doesn't have space to communicate to their children. I don't discourage parents not to search for jobs or to have self employment,but they should try to have a parenthood in them. Sometimes work should not be our first priority in life. Let the family come first and the rest follows. 

Imagine a parent or the family members who are always on toes going  for work from morning to evening, coming home is late even you don't know your neighbours. They maybe knowing you, and when you meet on the street you don't greet them, they will even say that you no longer recognize people and in the really sense you don't know them.

Just try to have family meeting with your family when you have a day off ,to discover what is happening to your kids or other family members

Some people are assuming that, everyone understands that am busy and I don't have time for family gatherings. Forgetting that,people do commit their own time and space ,so that they can create good rapport in the family.

5. Separation

Most of the parents nowdays they prefer separation, which makes members of the family not to be together. You may find the father may decide to take his boy child and the wife takes the girls. Through this, the children may not have that bondness in the as a brother and sister.

Sometimes,a husband and wife can separate and the wife takes the children and children would not have that fatherly love. Maybe there would be a  problem in the family, but  we should sometimes try to figure out about the children. Children can loose trust to those parents , because they no longer recognize them as their guardians. 

The children in both sides develop weird behavior, because they are being brought in different environment this triggering good character. They maybe talking through the phone, but it doesn't mean that they will have that stronger love among the family members. Children will not even know their cousins, aunties and uncles plus their grandparents.

6. Divorce

Most of the family members have preferred to have divorce and they no longer want to live together. Through this ,the family relationship has became like a foregone folktale. 

The good relationship that existed between the two families, has become no longer in existence. You find the wife and husband, each one wants to go with the kids and the court has to intervene and decide where the children will stay until they reach at a certain age.

7.Rural-urban migration.

Most of the families have gone or migrated to town in search of green pastures.  Others are living in towns because they have been posted there to work thus limiting them to have good relationship with other family members. 

Preferably,others have decided to move to other places to avoid conflicts,others believe in witchcraft that if they stay at home, the people in the village will not feel good for them because they are wealth. Others have been chased or excommunicated from the community because they did some vices that aren't accepted by the community.

Through this, it has led to breakage of family bondage. Even if the problem arises at rural home ,they aren't ready to help or be together with other family members. Even when the funeral arises, the persons in charge are those near the family, but those living in urban ,they seem not to care.

8.Going abroad

Most of the family haven't have good relationship with their members, because of long distance relationship. You find the father or the mother has been blessed and has gone to a broad in terms of further studies, scholarship, Green cards,or jobs. A person takes almost 2 years or one year before he/she comes back to his country, thus limiting strong relationship. A child may grew or be born without seeing his father,because the father had gone a broad.

It makes children to be raised by one parent which kills the morale of bondage and trustfulness among the members.

In family relationship it's good to ensure that you video call , you can call or try to visit every mother or after two week even you are living in urban areas. Those in a broad try as much as possible not to exceed two years or if possible you can visit yearly.

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