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How to balance workload at home and at work as a mother.


Many mothers have a lot to sacrifice so that they can balance the workload. It needs commitment and submission inorder to succeed. 

Am the one of them who struggles to fit at home and at office. I normally work up at 4 am ,prepare breakfast and I dress my kids and make sure they have taken their breakfast before they step out for school.

There are at times I feel like giving up. Imagine you have a 6 month year old , when you wake up to prepare breakfast the kid has woken up. It forces me to stop whatever I am doing ,I breastfed her intending for a sleep the kids end up playing. 

She starts to cheer at you. Sometimes you feel like pinching her ,but your ego can't allow you because she is a kid. So I have to entice her with breastfeeding until she eventually sleeps.

There are at times she deceives that she has slept only to be amazed the calling of ma.ma.ma.  imagine that's is almost 5:30 a.m and the older kid are waiting for you.

Sometimes at work it's so stressful. You are supposed to work from 8am to 5pm and you need to travel at a longer distance. Most of the time I am late for work because I can't manage to be on time. 

During the clock out , I travel to a murram road. When it rains the motorbike sometimes tends not to pass through, because the roads are mud. It forces me to walk on foot for a longer miles so that I avoid getting stuck.

There are times I get rained on because I don't have any alternative. I don't have a personal car, so I have to wait until the rain stops so that I can proceed with my journey. Imagine it's almost 6pm and am supposed to be at home . Most of the times I reach home at 7:40-8:pm.

You are tired and upon reaching home , your house chores are waiting for you. You need to act out faster like a mother of the house ,so that things will not be in a mess.

Has or do your kids normally eat their food without any problem. Take a case where you prepare food and when you serve them ,it becomes hide and seek. Sometimes you have to sweet talk to them with all manners of names Daddy,PAPA,MUM,MA'AM and other names,so that they can eat well.

So it is my responsibility to organize myself and plan on my day to day activities, so that I can fulfill the task of the day. Even if you fill tired and exhausted and sometimes try to help your nanny so that your kids will have a good life.

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5 Ways to protect the future you’ve built for your family

 

Always remember to protect the future of your family,because you are the back born to them. The moment you don't lay a good foundation for your family, either for term life insurance plan then prepare for the worst predicament for your family.

The future comprises the small, everyday that shape the kind of life you’ve envisioned for the people you love. Are you starting a family? Scrimp and save to build your dream home. Are you arriving to educate your children,unable to pay for their school fees? Struggling to pay other bills like water,hospital bills, traveling bills and even emergencies.

Just work hard for your family to have a good future for children, grandchildren even your great great grandchildren.

Put aside emergency fund. 

Setting or putting money for an emergency, it helps and protects your family from unnecessary troubles.

For example emergencies like sicknesses, accidents and other emerging issues, they don't necessarily knock at your door for preparations. Be always have the mind of setting a side small coins to Carter for emergencies.

Pay your debts. 

Avoid debt at all costs! But if you have to have debt, prioritize paying them. If you know you are fond of borrowing and you don't have any source of returning back, please avoid debt in all manners.

If you really necessary you have to borrow,just commit yourself to return back. This would help you in time of needy, an emergency or an accident. Surely ,If you borrow money or something from me and you don't return back, do you expect an assistant from me? A big No.

Paying back it gives the creditors a morale of giving to you next round.

Preserve what you built.

Don’t let uncertainties take away the things you worked hard for. For example if you had built an house or bought a car for a loan which you took either from a bank or a sacco ,make sure you protect them.

Ensure you are well protected and sorrounded by insurance companies. Because if you safeguard yourself with an insurance,it helps you to cater for what you have lost.

This term life insurance plan has three affordable variants: Short Term Cover for your loans and financial obligations; Income Protector for your family’s living expenses and your children’s education; and for smooth transfer of wealth to your heirs. 

Always be optimistic to take insurance that can be your saviour in time of difficulties.

Develop new skills.

Always try to shape your future and that of your family, by ensuring that you yearn to learn new skills of development. This can be done by volunteering, to manage a project ,to finding a mentor and attending seminars, developing new skills add value to your career and is crucial for your growth (and promotions)!

Don’t be afraid to swerve from your sweet comfort zone. Turning on and upgrading hobbies like branding,singing, baking, photography, blogging, et cetera. could mean new streams of income for you and your family. The possibilities are endless when you don’t stop learning!

 

Diversify your investments

Remember the saying “Don’t put all your eggs in one basket”? That’s investment diversification in a nutshell. Diversification is investing in different funds from different companies and industries so you don’t run the risk of losing all your money when one of your investments suffers. That way, the money you intend to grow for your family’s future needs is secure.

 Putting your money in various sectors of investment,can help you if one sector fails the other one gives a back up.

Safeguard your health. 

Health is wealth. You live in a world where, more often than not, your income directly affects your health. With money, you can opt for healthier options, and you can afford medicine or hospital expenses. You can take medical cover insurance, physical, and financial wealth. Its advisable toato have Nhif,and other health-related medical covers ,to cover for any sickness,an emergency or chronic diseases. Ensure you adhere to Covid19-related confinement.    

Securing your finances is an important aspect of your total wellbeing. Along with mental and emotional , social, and physical, managing your finances well allows you to live the joy of wellbeing. When all aspects of your finances are covered,

Tips for how to become successful

 

1. Consume motivational content

Frequently we are so wrapped up in our daily to-dos that we are far from future focused. Yet, the most successful people (from small business owners to CEOs of major companies) are always envisioning their dreams and aspirations coming to life. It’s fun, it’s fulfilling, and therefore definitely worth doing, and of course, a key ingredient of entrepreneurship. If you aren’t sure what those are for yourself, consider listening to some motivational podcasts, reading inspirational blogs or other types of encouraging content.

2. Define your passions.

 Before you can achieve success, you will have to define what success means to you — and no one else can do that for you. While it may take years to realize what you want to do with your life, identifying your passions, interests, and values will help you set goals and give your life a sense of meaning. If you have trouble identifying these things, then ask a friend or family member to help you. Ask yourself the following questions:

3. Take away distractions

Make a list of things in your life that take up your time or distract you. This could be a phone, a television show or even a person who causes you stress. Shut off your phone and put it in a different room when it's time to focus on your goal.

Turn off the television and put the remote across the room. Only keep in contact with the people who make a positive impact on your life. Now is the best time to start changing habits so that you can focus on achieving success without distractions.

4. Keep planning

Stick to a schedule when working on your goals. Give yourself challenges according to your personal calendar, such as "I will run a five-minute mile by the end of the month," or "I will save $2,000 by the end of the year."

Even if you do not achieve the goal, you will have your starting point in your calendar and will see progress. If you plan your goals and track them in a calendar, you will always have proof of your progress. Having something tangible is a great motivator to keep working toward success.

5.Develop Good Habits  

You can have big dreams, great goals, and still fail. The third key of success requires you to turn your goals into actions. Repeated actions in the right direction become helpful habits. And once you form the right habits, you create momentum.

By creating systems for your life as you form good habits that can help you stay on track. You can build systems by grouping good habits together. Having a system in place can keep you from having to make decisions on the fly or having to keep track of doing all your goal-oriented tasks one by one.

6. Deal And Communicate With People Effectively: No person is an island. Learn to understand and motivate others.

Successful people develop and nurture a network and they only do that by treating people openly, fairly and many times firmly. There is nothing wrong about being firm – just don’t cross the a-hole line. How do you deal with people?

7) Successful People Possess a “Can Do” Attitude

Enthusiastic and always ready for a challenge, successful people look at finding solutions. They are fixers in life. They’re not obsessed about fixing things that can’t be fixed though and know when to back off and let something go. People with low self esteem tend to be the ones that find it hard to let go as they associate themselves and the task as one and see themselves as failures if they are unable to fix the issue. Successful people can maintain perspective and not get carried away with their enthusiasm. They recognise when effort outweighs the benefits.

8) They’re Optimistic at Heart

At the thought of a new project, successful people are looking at possibilities instead of looking at all the possible problems. They allow the delicate creative process to develop before adding in rational and realistic forecasts. Nothing would ever be invented or achieved if we all started a project by looking at what could go wrong with it instead of focusing on what is possible. They look for the good in situations and this attitude creates a strong mental buffer that protects optimists against the ravages of the negative aspects in life.

9.Successful People Possess Unwavering Self Belief

Successful people do sometimes suffer from self doubt but they are good at talking themselves out of it or not taking their thoughts too seriously. Instead of over analysing all that could go wrong, they concentrate on their strengths. These strengths serve as the basic foundation from which they leap out into the wide world to show off their skills. Self belief accounts for a large part of success. I have seen many people with lacklustre talent achieve great things due to their self belief. I have also seen super talented people waste their potential completely due to their lack of self belief. Self belief is the ‘springboard’, talent influences how high you can go. Without self belief – all talent is wasted.

Many of us, especially women, have been taught that the package we come in--our bodies--determines how much acceptance and joy we're entitled to. We've been trained from a young age to believe that attractiveness is equivalent to our worth as human beings. And lo and behold, we are often treated this way in real life by grown adults!--which reinforces these ugly lies.


 10. Be committed

Through commitment, you can gain motivation to pursue success. You should make a list that includes your goal, your level of commitment to the goal and what you're willing to do to achieve that goal.

Staying focused on your plan is crucial. It helps to put aside at least 15 minutes per day to think about your plan and work toward it. This will keep your goal fresh in your mind and allow you to continue focusing on it.

In determining your commitment to your goal, however, it's important to ensure you have realistic expectations of yourself and the outcome. If your commitment is not paying off after a certain time, you should adjust your goal accordingly and revise any necessary steps.At times it may be helpful to ask a friend or family member for support in helping you stick to you.

10 Signs showing maturity in a person



 Maturity is a state when an individual is in a position to realize what is happening around him/her, to understand the rationale behind those happenings and does not get too elated nor too depressed by final results. Thus he/she is in a position to absorb pressures and remain unperturbed by the situations around him/her. You can realize you have now matured by looking for following signs:

1. You should have love .

Unfortunately most of all young adults don't want to "waste" time hanging around with elders. They see they are boring.

Most of us like to hangout with friends. Most of these friends are of the same age group. However, if you like to spend time with children and older people, you should consider yourself a mature individual. Quite often, spending time with people who are not in your age bracket helps you visualize life in an entirely different manner. They have a great advice with decision and financial advice.

2. You save more than what you expend

This one does not need any detail explanation. Saving more than the expenditures will itself lend credibility to your maturity status.

3. You indulge more in reading

Reading enhances knowledge, learning new words,it increases patience level,it reduces stress level and avoid depression and builds confidence.

To be updated is of utmost priority in today’s knowledge-driven society. And probably one of the best ways to get informed is to read. If you are spending more time reading, this indicates you are serious about your business which is a sign of maturity.

4. You take care of yourself as well as others

In the run of life, you may give less importance to yourself relative to your family members. However, you must realize you are no less significant. Therefore, you must take out time for yourself, and take care of your body and mind. This will, in turn lead to better performance in your duties which will render you as a responsible and matured person.

5. You seek the signs of maturity

You’re reading this article; this action itself shows you are serious about being considered mature. You now seem to shoulder your responsibilities and want to know the meaning of your existence. Therefore, you are looking for things you should know/do in order to become a responsible and mature citizen. This is a sign of you now being a mature individual.

Maturity brings with it responsibility. With responsibility comes sensibility. Sensibility leads to confidence. So move with confidence to show the world you have now matured.

6. You listen more and talk less

When we realize as human beings we are built to hear more (because we have two ears) and speak less (we have one mouth/tongue); we gain more information and whatever we speak will be based on substantial reasoning. This will provide a glimpse of a thinking individual/rational person to the audience. Thus you shall be perceived more seriously, and in turn this will add to your confidence. It is the first sign of you becoming a more matured individual than what you were before.

7. You do not shy away from responsibilities

As individuals we play a variety of roles in our societal set up. Be it for our family, our community, our friends, our country or for the human race in general. Additionally, we, being the highly successful species on Earth, should also be responsible for other species of this planet, as well as for sustaining the planet for future life forms. When you think in these terms, you behave in a more responsible manner. You not only perform your duties for your family or country, you also take care of mother earth. This makes you a matured individual on this planet.


8. You are less argumentative and more accommodating

There are times when you think you are right in an argument but by winning an argument you may lose a friend. So, it may be advisable to refrain from arguing too much at these times. Quite often, when things are normal, the other person with whom there was an argument may realize your point of view, or it is also possible you understand his/her perspective better. For, just because someone is not agreeing to you, does not mean he/she is wrong. By arguing less, you are providing the required space and prestige to others, and at the same time you are buying more time for yourself to look at the other’s argument from another angle. And additionally, you command more respect from others. This shows you are now a matured individual.

9. You enjoy each season

Most of us have a likening for either summer or winter or spring or rains. That’s fine. But there is no need to get irritated whenever your favorite season has been replaced by another one. There is a cycle of seasons and life forms adapt to that. No one can control seasonal cycles and no one should control them. So if you are enjoying changes in season, however abrupt they might seem, you have grown into a matured individual.

10. You’re straight with your communication, regardless of how unsexy it may be perceived

No one appreciates fluff, as they realize it’s unworkable. Beating around the bush, embellishment and lying are all forms of fabrication. We can’t go anywhere if everything that comes out of my mouth is a facade of the truth.

It’s not your decision to decide for other people. They will think how they want to think. Feel how they want to feel. Assign whatever meaning they want onto the words they come across. You can only do the best you can at open and honest communication.

When you are focused on other people’s approval, you lose your authenticity. When you focus on what you are committed to, the truth backs me up.

Speak from the heart, even if you’re voice shakes.

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