25 pieces of Advice you must give to your male child

1.He should act as a man. Let him to differentiate himself and girl child. He should know his responsibility as a man of the house.

2.He should work for his own properties. Don't ever tell him that what you have belongs to him,instead show him the ways of generating income inorder to have assets.

3.He should not have pride. Let him understand that he is not more superior or a champion over the female child. Even the female will be the most superior persons if he doesn't work hard.

4. He should protect and guard the home. Give him some hints on how he should protect his family in terms of security or against raiding. When he will become a man of the house he should always defend the family thus protecting the community.

5.He should provide. As a man his responsibility will be providing for the family in terms of basic needs that are needed. He should not always depend on the woman he has married. By doing that he will have the respect from the woman.

6. He should love and be faithful. The woman that he will marry,he is supposed to love her,respect her, cherish her and not take her for granted. Tell him to love his siblings so that he can develop the heart of loving.

7. Teach him how to save. He should learn how to save from earlier ages. If you give him pocket money ,he should not squander all the money,but he will keep some money to buy for himself even a pair of shoes.

8.Teach him not to live a life of borrowers. He should be careful and cautious not to borrow money to buy luxury things to appease the ladies. After spending the borrowed money ,he will be unable to return or pay back.

9.He should be careful with ladies or woman. He should not have an earlier man woman intimacy relationship,because it will make him go astray. Woman sometimes,take an opportunity of young men and they waste their life and when his time reaches for marrying,he ends up dealing with sugar mummy.

10. He should make sure not to offend the woman that love him. Women are like rose flowers that should be watered everyday.

11. He should always fight for his manhood. Never should he allow ladies to mock her. But instead come out and protect his manhood. He should not be crying like female child.

12.Give him education. He should or must go to school and work hard,so that he can prosper in life. He should restrain from drug trafficking, smoking, robbery with violence. Education is the key for life.

13. He should know that being educated is not getting a good job,rather he should be a job creator and not a job seeker.

14.He should be able to learn some skills and knowledge. He ought to have experience skills in certain fields that can accommodate him.Let him mingle with good people or friends. He should choose his friends wisely. Not all friends are good some will be misleading.

15. Tell him the idea of choosing friends, moreso who are rich. The rich guys no longer associate with the poor. So he should carefully know the best friends to hang up with.

16. He should not be fast to get riches. He should avoid unnecessary groups that would register him in cult activities inorder to get wealth.

17. Let him hang out with people whose their source of wealth are known. He should know Children of nowdays they want to get rich without investment.

18.He should avoid too much love on football. He shouldn't dedicate all his life,time and energy to watching games all day long without focussing on his life development.

19. A man should have two things in life. The wisdom and knowledge. Without wisdom you will not make it life.

20. Inform him that his handsomeness can attract women to him. But he should know that it's love and his hard work that could keep them together.

21. He should avoid night clubs  or night parties ,because they are not good. They make young people to indulge in bad behaviours.

22. He should know that getting  a rich woman doesn't mean that she will provide for him. Women who are rich ,and you don't provide for them,are the worst ghost in the world. 

23. He should choose women who are respectful. Women who respect their parents ,elders and even their siblings.

24. He should know that wiser man don't fight to kill their fellow men inorder to gain prosperity either in power or life ,but they should fight to protect what's is good for them and other people.

25. Lastly, he should know that what he does in life ,to other people have consequences. He should know that karma is real.

Conclusion

Let your son know that inorder to acquire and preserve his manhood,he should work extra hard and avoid all unnecessary activities that would make his life short.

If you were a parent,what  advise would you have given your son?

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15 Tips Encouraging good behaviours among teenagers.

Teenagers are also known as teens or adolescent. They are aged between 13 and 19 years. They experience different changes at puberty. They develop,socially physically, emotionally.

At this stage the teens develop differently and they experience changes that sometimes make them to develop good and bad behaviour. This is the stage where they learn and discover new things evolving around the world. Others due to peer pressure,they become rude,start watching pornographic videos,early pregnancies,early marriages,drug addiction and other vices in the society. 

But being a teen doesn't mean that the child cannot change . Instilling good behaviours needs good communication and good relationship.

The following are 15 Tips on how to Encourage good behaviours on teenagers.

1.Give a positive attention to your teens.

Parents are encouraged to give or allow positive attention and spend more time with their teenagers. Take time to listen to what they are saying and their body language. Spending time with them , they can develop braveness and you can easily learn a lot especially in terms of behavior change. 

Also you would have easier time to talk to them, encouraging them to positively perceive how good behaviours helps persons to develop morally upright.

2.Talk to your teenagers positively.

As a parent it's your duty and responsibility to talk to your teens in a way that would yield good results. You shouldn't talk to them, shouting and yelling at them. Instead sit down together ,have a talk one on one and if there's a problem , definitely the teen will open up and tell you the truth. Shouting at high voice makes them to develop fear and bad attitude towards you.

3.Be a role model

Each parent should develop or lead as an example in terms of behavior. Make sure your footsteps are well mannered and good to be followed. You should not talk against bad behaviours like drunkardness,smoking and yet you come home very drunkard staggering. Or the kids knows that you have side chics and you tell them to stop fornication. Guard your steps and make sure that are good for your teens. Encourage them to go to church ,attend church camps and participate in community charity work 

4.Set clear rules and boundaries.

A parent should always set clear rules and boundaries that should be adhered to. Let the teenagers know that you mean what you say. If it's the time they should be at home and should not exceed 6pm . Beyond that let them know that there will be consequences if they violate the rules.

Let them give clear explanation that can excempt them from being punished. Am sure if they know how you acknowledge those rules they will always be on the right truck.

5.Taking you child seriously.

You should treat your teen as being very important and deserves respect. Ensure you care about your child ,how his/her development , physically, socially or mentally. Admit the changes in her body and treat them normally.

6.Respect your teenager's privacy and needs

Parents are asked to respect the teens privacy especially at their puberty stage. They tend to shy off because new changes have emerged in them.

When visiting their rooms especially bedrooms you should knock and ask politely "may I come in?" If they respond yes then proceed in ,but if they keep quiet ,they no longer need you,maybe they are dressing up and they don't want you to see them.

7.Give room for creativity in the house.

Teens tend to be creative in all areas. But ensure those creativity are under your supervision and directions. Let them develop their talents either in cooking , singing,dancing,and others. You can even allow to design the room, connect the the audio or video in a creative way.

8.Give them responsibilities

It is good to allow teens to have their own responsibilities. For example let them know how to dress well,the type of clothes to wear that are decent. You can assign them the responsibility of taking care of their young siblings and instruct them to be watchful. This taking care of young ones will instil good behaviour of caring for others.

9.Give praises or rewards

Always give praises whenever the teen has done excellent work especially in class,at home or anywhere. Make them to feel appreciated and loved,and these will make them to work harder and develop good morals. Even if they haven't performed well, don't rebuke them ,instead you should praise and encourage them to work hard and promise to reward them next round of they improve. As they grow they will be knowing to be grateful and appreciate other people the way they are.

Remember to praise positively when they change to good behaviour. Teenagers at this stage they develop weird behaviours that are misleading and whenever they abstain from those bad behaviours,just congratulate them.

10.Share your inner feelings

Let them know your feelings over certain behaviours. Talk to them that you don't feel good for example when they are being involved in early relationship or make love.

Tell them you don't feel good when they are spending most of their times in the screen especially phones watching movies. By talking to them they will definitely know that they will always work hard and avoid any misunderstanding between them and their parents.

11.Have problem solving skills

You should tackle the problem positively. You should make sure that the way you solve problems ,should be of good advantage. Don't just jump into conclusions without focussing on its consequences. Don't leave your teens in a dilemma not giving a clear solution. Give your teens time to express themselves and even ask them to give resolutions.

If you allow them sometimes to be mediator if a problem arise then they will develop good behaviours.

12.Adhere and keep promises

If you had promised your teens on certain issues,either be buying them presents, taking them for an outing or taking them to good school if the work hard,just fulfil those promises . If you don't honour those promises the teens will be discouraged and develop bad attitude towards you and even not working hard in their studies, because they know there's no reward.

13.Nurture positive relationships

You should ensure you have good relationship with the teens . You can try to spend time with teens by having funny times of laughing or making jokes which helps to ease tension and blame games among teens. It helps parents in preparation to tackle a difficult conversation and thus easement of shouting and keeping of secrets.

14.Encourage sense of belonging. 

Most of the family members have ceremonies and traditional ways of doing things. Allow your teens to celebrate their birthdays with other teens but under your supervision. Never should you allow them to drink alcohol,watch movies because they will finish in a bad situation. 

Most of the teens have the rite of passage ,allow them to attend those rituals and learn in how to live like adulthood. Ladies are taught by their grandmother and boys grandfather.

15. Plan a head of difficult conversations.

When planning to have a talk on a topic which is hard to handle,always ensure to plan and measure on how to talk to your teens. Find time to inform and look for a better place and time convenient to talk. 

You may use verbal or a note to keep them alert on the topics you are going to discuss.

Planning a head makes you to engage yourself and solve the problem easily.

Conclusion

Encouraging or instilling good behaviours among teens it needs paying attention,having skills of solving the problems,being a parent of good deeds that can be emulated by teenagers that would help them .

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What other things will you do to make sure the teenagers develop good behaviours?

Importance of teamwork as a family

 

A family is an essential institution that contains a large group of people. It can either be nuclear or extended. Nuclear family consist of a father, mother and children. Extended family consist of nuclear family plus the grand parents,great grandparents,aunts and great aunties,uncles and great uncles that are living in the same household.

Being in a family moreso extended it needs a lot of patience in working together as a team. You may find some members differ in certain ideologies and perceptions,thus leading to poor coordination. Some of the family members may have certain status that make them not to or willing to work as a team. For example the wealthier and the poorer can't eat from the same pot ,because their status bar them from mingling with each other. The rich see they are superior and they can't sit with the same table with less fortunate. Through these actions it tears the family members.

Families that work together as a team ,they reap more love, resilience, humility, kindness, responsibility, togetherness and other positive attitudes towards each other.

How to acquire teamwork in a family

Family members can have the teamwork through the following:

Share house chores. Each members should be assigned house chores that would make each and everyone to work hard so as to finish earlier. If the members work together through sharing the chores either in cooking, cleaning the house, making beds and arranging clothes,it brings togetherness.

Playing together. Family members can schedule a day or a time either on the weekends to play. Children needs to explore various activities inorder to develop psychomotor skills. Parents can develop or organise activities like,playing soccer,rope skipping, skirting,racing, Chess, swimming and other activities that children can or would be able to participate. If possible parents should ensure that all activities that are easily affordable can be within the compound or you can take the kids to kids sports club.

Ceremonies. Most of the family members have family functions or gatherings that bring them together. These ceremonies would be wedding,initiation or rite of passage , birthdays ,and others also gather together during graduation.

If the members of the family gather together,they can enhance teamwork. But most of the families due to modernity,poor economy, jealous, greediness and other vices have made the family to break and they no longer come to celebrate together.

Performing these ceremonies helps the family to have or develop teamwork and embrace it.

Volunteer. As a family you can volunteer and provide charitable work in the community. You can decide to provide basic needs like food ,clothes and even built houses for the need in the society. Each family member can contribute in terms of money,food and other items and you schedule on how you can visit the needy in the society. 

You may find some families are having jiggers and you decide to spray the house or treat them through washing their beddings, smearing the houses and taking them to hospital if need be.

Through volunteering,it makes most of the family members to develop a good and helping hand.

Importance of teamwork in the family

1. It helps to create strong family bondage and togetherness. 
2. It helps or makes family members to mentally develop and acquire good decision making.
3. It creates awareness of helping and caring for others.
4. It helps persons to develop sense of belonging .

Sometimes teamwork in the family cannot be achieved and it need tolerance so that you can accommodate all sorts of people. The following are disadvantages of team work in the family

Disadvantages of teamwork

• It leads to wastage of time especially when their a misunderstanding between individuals.
• You cannot make your own decisions because it's a teamwork.
• It leads to conflicts if some members feel less fortunate in the family or when works less than others

Conclusion

Creating teamwork in the family it needs patience and tolerance. Teamwork helps to solve problems easily and helps one to develop communication skills. It can also lead to poor decision making , conflicts if not well managed.

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