15 Tips Encouraging good behaviours among teenagers.

Teenagers are also known as teens or adolescent. They are aged between 13 and 19 years. They experience different changes at puberty. They develop,socially physically, emotionally.

At this stage the teens develop differently and they experience changes that sometimes make them to develop good and bad behaviour. This is the stage where they learn and discover new things evolving around the world. Others due to peer pressure,they become rude,start watching pornographic videos,early pregnancies,early marriages,drug addiction and other vices in the society. 

But being a teen doesn't mean that the child cannot change . Instilling good behaviours needs good communication and good relationship.

The following are 15 Tips on how to Encourage good behaviours on teenagers.

1.Give a positive attention to your teens.

Parents are encouraged to give or allow positive attention and spend more time with their teenagers. Take time to listen to what they are saying and their body language. Spending time with them , they can develop braveness and you can easily learn a lot especially in terms of behavior change. 

Also you would have easier time to talk to them, encouraging them to positively perceive how good behaviours helps persons to develop morally upright.

2.Talk to your teenagers positively.

As a parent it's your duty and responsibility to talk to your teens in a way that would yield good results. You shouldn't talk to them, shouting and yelling at them. Instead sit down together ,have a talk one on one and if there's a problem , definitely the teen will open up and tell you the truth. Shouting at high voice makes them to develop fear and bad attitude towards you.

3.Be a role model

Each parent should develop or lead as an example in terms of behavior. Make sure your footsteps are well mannered and good to be followed. You should not talk against bad behaviours like drunkardness,smoking and yet you come home very drunkard staggering. Or the kids knows that you have side chics and you tell them to stop fornication. Guard your steps and make sure that are good for your teens. Encourage them to go to church ,attend church camps and participate in community charity work 

4.Set clear rules and boundaries.

A parent should always set clear rules and boundaries that should be adhered to. Let the teenagers know that you mean what you say. If it's the time they should be at home and should not exceed 6pm . Beyond that let them know that there will be consequences if they violate the rules.

Let them give clear explanation that can excempt them from being punished. Am sure if they know how you acknowledge those rules they will always be on the right truck.

5.Taking you child seriously.

You should treat your teen as being very important and deserves respect. Ensure you care about your child ,how his/her development , physically, socially or mentally. Admit the changes in her body and treat them normally.

6.Respect your teenager's privacy and needs

Parents are asked to respect the teens privacy especially at their puberty stage. They tend to shy off because new changes have emerged in them.

When visiting their rooms especially bedrooms you should knock and ask politely "may I come in?" If they respond yes then proceed in ,but if they keep quiet ,they no longer need you,maybe they are dressing up and they don't want you to see them.

7.Give room for creativity in the house.

Teens tend to be creative in all areas. But ensure those creativity are under your supervision and directions. Let them develop their talents either in cooking , singing,dancing,and others. You can even allow to design the room, connect the the audio or video in a creative way.

8.Give them responsibilities

It is good to allow teens to have their own responsibilities. For example let them know how to dress well,the type of clothes to wear that are decent. You can assign them the responsibility of taking care of their young siblings and instruct them to be watchful. This taking care of young ones will instil good behaviour of caring for others.

9.Give praises or rewards

Always give praises whenever the teen has done excellent work especially in class,at home or anywhere. Make them to feel appreciated and loved,and these will make them to work harder and develop good morals. Even if they haven't performed well, don't rebuke them ,instead you should praise and encourage them to work hard and promise to reward them next round of they improve. As they grow they will be knowing to be grateful and appreciate other people the way they are.

Remember to praise positively when they change to good behaviour. Teenagers at this stage they develop weird behaviours that are misleading and whenever they abstain from those bad behaviours,just congratulate them.

10.Share your inner feelings

Let them know your feelings over certain behaviours. Talk to them that you don't feel good for example when they are being involved in early relationship or make love.

Tell them you don't feel good when they are spending most of their times in the screen especially phones watching movies. By talking to them they will definitely know that they will always work hard and avoid any misunderstanding between them and their parents.

11.Have problem solving skills

You should tackle the problem positively. You should make sure that the way you solve problems ,should be of good advantage. Don't just jump into conclusions without focussing on its consequences. Don't leave your teens in a dilemma not giving a clear solution. Give your teens time to express themselves and even ask them to give resolutions.

If you allow them sometimes to be mediator if a problem arise then they will develop good behaviours.

12.Adhere and keep promises

If you had promised your teens on certain issues,either be buying them presents, taking them for an outing or taking them to good school if the work hard,just fulfil those promises . If you don't honour those promises the teens will be discouraged and develop bad attitude towards you and even not working hard in their studies, because they know there's no reward.

13.Nurture positive relationships

You should ensure you have good relationship with the teens . You can try to spend time with teens by having funny times of laughing or making jokes which helps to ease tension and blame games among teens. It helps parents in preparation to tackle a difficult conversation and thus easement of shouting and keeping of secrets.

14.Encourage sense of belonging. 

Most of the family members have ceremonies and traditional ways of doing things. Allow your teens to celebrate their birthdays with other teens but under your supervision. Never should you allow them to drink alcohol,watch movies because they will finish in a bad situation. 

Most of the teens have the rite of passage ,allow them to attend those rituals and learn in how to live like adulthood. Ladies are taught by their grandmother and boys grandfather.

15. Plan a head of difficult conversations.

When planning to have a talk on a topic which is hard to handle,always ensure to plan and measure on how to talk to your teens. Find time to inform and look for a better place and time convenient to talk. 

You may use verbal or a note to keep them alert on the topics you are going to discuss.

Planning a head makes you to engage yourself and solve the problem easily.

Conclusion

Encouraging or instilling good behaviours among teens it needs paying attention,having skills of solving the problems,being a parent of good deeds that can be emulated by teenagers that would help them .

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What other things will you do to make sure the teenagers develop good behaviours?