Have you ever thought of becoming a parent and having your own family. New parents sometimes they have fear and they don't know how parenting is. New parents they sought tips from various sources ,others which are good or others misleading. When starting a family and becoming a parent it needs patience and resilience. Marriage has ups and downs,so you must accept and move on. The following tips will help new parents in their life.
1. Trust yourself
As a new parent you need to trust your instinct. Trust that you should make a responsible parent like others. You may find many advice from the parents who have managed,seek from the books or Internet , advice from friends ,relatives and other people. Just take what's good for you and toss the rest. You know your baby better than the other person,if you really need any advice just consult your doctor.
2. Ask help
As a new parent if you feel you need a help from others,just ask. Don't die with your problem. Asking help doesn't make you to be more less parenting. Relatives,friends they can help you to babysit and you can take that time to take a shower,sleep for a while or you have a work. Don't tend to pretend that you are a super mum or super dad. Asking help or allowing people to help you,it creates good relationship.
Don't be afraid on how they will take it. But have a positive mind.
3. Join parenting groups
As a new parent who is struggling in raising a child or children,try as much as possible to join parenting groups either in Facebook, LinkedIn Twitter and other social media networks. In those groups there are a lot of questions which are being asked and they are answered.
Remember to take good advise and leave those that are not helping. Through those groups,you will learn alot what you never knew in parenting. In those groups you will learn on how to feed your baby,care for your baby.
4. Be open minded
As a new parent, don't just assume that you know everything about parenting. Be ready to seek advice,and put off the old theories and accept the new ones. Be flexible in your life and don't have a preconceived notions and ignore the new ideas.
5. Always communicate.
Don't be afraid to communicate with your baby. Even if the baby doesn't talk back or understand what you are talking,just speak to him/her. Communicating with a baby helps in development of communication skills. It may sound weird when someone finds you talking to your infant. But that one should not scare you . You can do non-verbal communication by waving the hands,smiling and see whether the child can do it back.
6. Don't compare
New parents always try to do comparison in children. Every child has got his/her unique way of development. Don't just look at someone's baby for example she has started walking at 9 months and yours has not moved even in one step or she can't make steps while holding objects. Every child has her own milestones.
Just be patient and as you keep on having more children you will understand the differences. Always read on child's development stages, that's when you will accept.
7. Babies always cry
Remember that babies always cry. As a new parent you should not take that one as a disease. Most of the infants moreso at 1-5 months they tend to cry ,due to colic or they have been just be born and they need womb warmth. Others may cry due to hunger,they want to sleep,others are sick, overtired,upset and you need to differentiate and understand how these babies cry and how their sounds means. Just make sure you care for your baby by using the right petroleum jelly that doesn't bring itching on the skin of the baby .
8. Get time to rest.
I know it's difficult to sleep when you are supposed to have some other activities. Sometimes other children won't allow you to sleep. As a new parent you are advised to sleep when the baby is also a sleep and make sure that there's no disturbance. You can't sleep when the baby is a wake, because he needs your attention.
Sleeping makes you to relax,refresh your mind,it makes you to regain your energy and also makes you to forget about the difficult time you have been having with the baby.
9. Be patient.
Parenting needs patience. You shouldn't expect the baby to grow instantly. There should be stages when parenting. Sometimes babies tend to be terrible and annoying, because of crying,they don't want to be left alone,to eat or sleep,you need to practice patience and persistent.
Impatient of new parents leads to poor upbringing. You can't expect a baby to act like a grown up,the baby needs his/her time to develop fully. Don't have so much expectations from your baby that are impossible.
10. Love yourself
Having a new baby and being a new parent, doesn't make you not to make yourself tidy. Yeah I know parenting a little baby plus the house chores if you don't have a nanny or anybody who can help, sometimes you may forget even to take a bath, especially if you have some other children.
The children may tend to cause chaos,they make the room untidy , disarrange the things,break some items and you find you are caught up when cleaning. Just use five minutes and take a bath.
Sometimes your body posture may change and you become more fatty, because you have baby fats that are yet to be reduced. Your skin may start peeling off, just look at the mirror and speak good things about you. You may see your fellow friends with good shape, don't disregard yourself or avoid to hang out with them.
Just put yourself together and believe that you will regain your shape. Even after some months you may start slowly going for yoga,or gyms to return back your shape.
Conclusion
Parenting it needs patience, loving yourself,asking help when need be, asking questions where you don't know about certain things, expecting stress because the baby may not be sleeping or may be sick.
Parenting as new parent can be tiresome but at the end ,you become a victor when the baby who used to be making or giving you sleepless night has become a grown up and can do his/her own things.
If you have other tips don't forget to share them in the comments section.
9 comments:
Great tips! Definitely ask for lots of help and don't hesitate to say no to visits, lunches, parties, etc. Love your wife/husband as much as you can! In that way, you will set the crucial foundation in your baby's life. The first 3-4 years of your child's life are the most important ones!!
Awesome tips. Being a parent has its challenges but being a new parent definitely has a lot of challenges
Great post! Such great points, especially asking for help and joining parenting groups.
Great tips, I will pass them on to my daughter who is about to become.
Very helpful! Thanks for sharing!
The tips are appreciated.. As a new grandmother, these are beneficial to me as well... It's been a minute since I had an infant around.
Don't compare is such a key one and important point for all facets of life, but sometimes hard to avoid.
Great advice. I'll share with my nephew who's a new dad!
This is good advice. Trusting your parenting instincts goes a long way to ensuring your child has the best life. God entrusted you with that child, not someone else. That matters!
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