How to cope with toxic persons.

 

Have you come across with toxic persons whether at your house,working places,churches, markets,malls ,at school and other places. How to you handle these persons so that you can fit in the same basket. 

Some people may be annoying until you feel like leaving them and decide to stay alone. But unfortunately, you won't leave them or relocate because they are their to stay.

Maybe they are immediate family members,workmates,fellow worshippers,and you must join hands or work together. 

The following are tips on how to cope with toxic persons

1.Just accommodate them

By accommodating them you will live peacefully. What do I mean ? Just know that willing to fit in with someone's wishes or needs.

But I don't advice you to fit to some wishes and needs which are against your laws or which are vices. Instead talk to them and talk to them politely and even if they insult you, just accept and move on. I think they will realize that your silence means a lot and this will give them a challenge to change their behaviour.

2. Be silent

Don't ever argue with toxic person, because if you do you will be embrassed and have low esteem.

Whenever they start a quarrel or an augment,just pretend that you didn't hear what they are talking. Just assume them. These people when they start arguing they are like remote controller. They can align you, change the contrast, change the station until you get confused on what to watch. 

Some insult may be so hurtful but never ever try to exchange words with madmen in the market because they will strip you naked. Swallow your anger and remind yourself that be quick to listen and don't be quick to talk, because not every word you talk when in a disagreement can be a blessing.

The more you try to argue with them , the .ore energy and words you give them. So being silent means a lot to you,it will make the person even to discover that he/ she is doing wrong to you.

3. Be optimistic

Some people may be unacceptable to you,either by discouraging you on any progress you make in life. They want to tear you down and make your life miserable. Let them not make  you to quit your job, but let their insult be a changing gear in your life. They will borrow your hardworking and they will eventually leave you.

4. Be mindful

Always mind on you lane and don't ever try to criss cross their lane. Try to do what's right and prove them wrong. The toxic people are narcissistic. They won't let you talk, make decisions or do anything that make progress. If you talk them and they refuse to change just mind your business and they will eventually quit.

5. Be tolerant 

Just each time you face your toxic boss or husband or wife try to be tolerant. Some bosses can be nuisance and unacceptable and even make you to look for a different job, because their motive is just to misuse the employees and they don't care. They always see that they are everything and nobody can question them . If they say it's this way it that they can't turn back or give a reverse to any decision.

Be tolerant to them and know that their time will reach and they will leave that office. Always try to  remind them that there used to be kings and queens and eventually they retired.

6. Be a mentor

Try to give them a motivating guidance if possible that can help them to change their toxic habits and behavior. Don't shy off whenever you find a chance to talk to them . I know it will be difficult to talk to persons who know that they know everything and nobody who can try to give advice or change whatever they have decided. 

Your commitment to your mentorship can lead and move mountains, because they can borrow your words and act accordingly.

Some family members can't allow you to talk in front of them and listen your nonsense and accommodate it in their life. They will degrade you ,abuse you,ruin you even try to destroy your marriage,but don't give up face them and say the truth and they will know your stand.

If it's your child who  doesn't want to listen in whatever you tell him/her,just keep on pressing on and she will eventually come to her senses and she will change and become a good person in the society.

If you have any tips on how to cope with toxic people, you are free to add under comment section. 

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